I think I would look at the relationship first. Ask her if she is depressed, she will know.
Hi both,
thanks for your inputs. infact we consulted a doctor and he had diagnised that she is in depression. she has started taking medicines and now our relationship has improved. she seems to be begin stable now...
Well, hard to say if she is suffering from depression. If she were suffering from Major Depression then there is a whole huge host of very profound symptoms she would be complaining about. (not always, but Major depression and anxiety is so painful that there would be other indicators I think)
I would advise you to do a google search for "symptoms of Major depression."
This will give a list of the signs and symptoms of a sufferer. You will find many sites that have links to such info as far as symptoms.
I suffer very bad very severe depression and anxiety, but I don't allow it to effect my relationship with my wife. (treatment I get helps a lot with that.)
Regardless, (as a man) I find it unreasonable that your wife only wants sex only twice a month. I understand that she may have her reason "as to why," but regardless she obviously is not understanding how important sex is to us men.
I give you credit for being so understanding with her, but I don't think I could do the same. Sex with my wife is very important to me and I could not be faithful to my wife if she was not sexually responsive to me at least 4 times a week.
I think that couples counsuling would be a good idea, "if you can talk her into doing that."
Was it always like this between you two?
I would highly suggest couples' counselling, it really sounds like a mix of marital non-communication, marital issues and depression. Though we can't diagnose depression here, but can point you in the right direction. I would also suggest going to see your family doctor. When you are in a partnership, when it comes to depression both of you need an outlet, like a support group.
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