Lack of understanding help

[hell1971]

My husband doesnt get it, he know I am depressed and am finding everyday things hard yet he still asks me to make all the decisions, simple things like whats shall he do for dinner, he only has to do it once a week, I do all the rest, hes getting annoyed at me when I say I dont know you decide, hes getting really snappy with me and the kids as he struggles to face the reality that I am no longer the strong one. How do I comunicate this to him without him getting moody or upset with me.

[hell1971]

Thanks for the comments

My meds have kicked in I felt strong enough to talk to him yesterday, I explained that he needs to take charge and stop asking my advise for every little thing, I explained that I am unable to process data in my mind it takes too long and I need to only do it for big things, I think he finally got it.

He has started to be very supportive, I think he just needed some time to acknowledge my depression.

I have had my first day without crying so I guess the meds are working although I feel really on edge, I guess thats a side effect but I must admit for the first time in a long time I feel like I can smile a little

[skram]

just wanted to let you know that i have the same thing with my husband, he doesn't understand that i find it impossible to make even the simplest decision, i just find it so difficult!!!!
he also doesn't understand why i am so needy of his time at the moment, as i am afraid of being on my own...i have 3 kids, my two boys are 11 and 7 and they are a brilliant help, but i also have a 5 month old daughter, who obviously takes up all my time!!! i know that hos job is important, he is a sole trader so if he doesn't work, we have no money, but i sometimes think that maybe the money isn't the most important thing at the moment!!!!
i have tried to talk with my husband and he agrees at the time, but the next day its all back to square one again!!!!
i have figured that i am stuck doing this on my own!!!!
good luck to you, next time he asks what you want for tea, send him out for a take away!! if he's anything like my hubby, he will hate spending the money and make his own mind up about what to eat!!! LOL

[Jasmine205]

Do you feel he's become less sympathic and supportive to you since you've become depressed? Or he's mostly been this way through out your relationship? How old are your children, are they old enough to help daddy out with chores?
He may be scared to see you changing and his response to you comes out as snappish, ask him why he can be supportive to you right now, and help you get through this together. It could be he doesn't realize he's doing it. Make him away of it, maybe.
*hugs* Hope you feel better soon!

[Stvrgrl]

HI,
     I just joined today and saw your note.  Sometimes I go thru the same thing with my boyfriend. I battle seizures and depression occasionally. The seizures are an every day battle but the depression varies.  In my opinion, you just need to be as supportive to him, as he needs to be to you. Have you tried taking Vitamin B12, to help you get thru your thoughts and actions.  I know that helps me sometimes and it is an all natural vitamin. It just gives you an extra boost of energy. Sorry, I dont really have any good words of wisdom.  He will come around, have hope.  Cheer up!