Lonley and Depressed

[Tommconn]

Im a 17 year old gay guy and I'm finding it really hard to cope with life, I have hardly any friends and I find it hard to fit in Because I have low self esteem issues and Im not into the popular culture of today, finding a partner is really hard and stressful for me and I cry a lot Because I believe I will be lonely forever. I try to find new partners all the time using Facebook and other sociol networks, I keep arranging to meet up with boys and I trust them Because I know they are there for the same reason as I am and also I am more careful about weather someone is really who they say they are Because I video chat or phone them, anyway, I have met a couple of boys I really like, but I always get so paranoid as to wether they like me or not despite the fact they say they do, also I always try to organise dates where we can meet but it either gets cancelled or my social phobia stops me from doing so, the worst part is my paranoia towards them, i feel it agitates them and they get put off, I just don't know what to do, my life was onnce so full of joy and I always used to be happy, now I feel like I've lost everything, I don't know what to do

[donnaj48]

I have to agree with what has been said.  I suggest that you make an appointment with your doctor and go from there.
17 years old go through a lot of emotions, doesn't make any difference if they are gay or straight.  
You deserve to get the support you need and be happy.  Don't look so hard for a relationship, many times when people stop looking is when one pops up.
Work on you, take care of you, get you happy. Do things you enjoy, the rest will follow.

[MYoungAtHeart]

Gay or straight, I read a lot of questions like yours about depression and lonliness...So many people nowadays see a photo on a profile in FB or Tumblr, and fall in love not even realizing what the other person is all about.  We always think that we are being careful, but in fact we give out alot of personal info on our Social Networks that we aren't even aware of...

So you make plans for a hookup and then get paranoid and scared of what they are going to think of you because of your depression and low self esteem  and then they get mad and the spiral continues...

You need to address the main cause of the problem and that is how you feel about yourself, and learn to be honest with a qualified counselor or group therapy and start changing your life before you can move forward and find a partner who will treat you with respect and love because after therapy, hopefully you will expect it  and demand it from prospective partners..

Wishing you the very best

M