My parents are "disgusted" with my depression...help?

[Fallrose9224]

I have been struggling with depression for 3 years now. (Im in my teens btw) I've tried to tell my mother several times and she's never taken it seriously. I am now failing a class because I can't focus. Just tonight I tried to open up about it and they told me to shut up I told my dad I was suicidal for a long time and he said I was selfish and stupid and a coward. My mother said I was lying about the whole thing and that I was just using self pity to get attention. I have never and I mean NEVER been more disgusted in my life. I just I need to know if some one out there has been through this and understands how I feel I need to know how they got through it. Please help and tell me how I should carry on with this situation.

[Poo44clooner]

I know how you feel because I have struggled with severe depression and anxiety all of my life. As I got older my older brother tried very hard to get me into his church. He said that that was what I needed. He doesn't believe in antidepressants or psychiatrists. So I know what you are going through. Do find someone to help you and never give up on yourself because you are too valuable.
Please hang in there.

[specialmom]

Ugh, some parents are pretty inadequate, huh?  I'm really sorry that yours are falling into this category right now.  I'm going to say something that I feel in my heart of hearts--  It stinks now but this is not forever.  You sound like a very strong girl to me!  And you are close to being able to create any kind of life or household that you would like.  What you can focus on is how to improve that one bad grade --  ask a teacher for help, go to study after school that most schools have, ask a friend in the class to help you.  Reach out.  And make a plan for what you want to do after school.  College at either university or community, trade school to learn skills to go straight to a job, etc.  This setting yourself up to be financially independent and support yourself is so important because then when your parents are unsupportive jerks ----  it affects you less.  You'll have your own place to live, your own people to love, your own way of handling stress.  

If you do feel suicidal, there are chat lines you can call or use online to talk to someone in -real time- OR as you are in high school, your school counselor is an excellent resource.  And do you go every year for a well visit doctor's check?  Tell the doctor.  These people are in positions to escalate getting you help!!  

Last, just wanted to tell you that if you also battle perfectionism (doing poorly in one class throwing you for an utter loop), that's so hard.  I am a little like this but have a son who really is a perfectionist.  No one is perfect so a perfectionist always struggles.  So, there are books you can read on this topic that might help you.  Let me know if you want me to include a title.  

Hang in there hon.  Life has a lot in store for you---  good things.  

[Colitis123]

Hang in there buddy

[Paxiled]

To some extent we've all been through it.  I have no idea if you're exaggerating what your parents are really like or not, and maybe you haven't really sat down and talked to them deeply enough to make them see.  I'm not there, I don't know.  But some people just have bad parents -- we don't choose our families, we're born into them.  If your parents aren't helping, you need to find someone who will -- a friend, a relative, you know, the crazy aunt who meditates, a school counselor.  Don't give up because your parents, if what you say is true, are not nice people.  There are other people out there.

[AnxiousNoMore]

Perhaps you can call a distress center, if you can't find anyone you know at the moment.