Should I seek help?

[tworle00]

  I am a 26 year old male, 5'11 - 270lbs and I've been dealing with what I think is depression. I am a college graduate, unable to find work, lost my grandmother just before my son was born, trying to get out of debt, and recently my first son was born. However,

  I've been dealing with this issue for around 2 years now. I have considered suicide but haven't attempted. My eye twitches uncontrollably at times. I'm awake all night and sleep a lot during the day. Honestly I look forward to falling asleep more more than I do being awake. I'm afraid I'm pushing people away with my attitude as well. I don't mean to be so snappy with everyone and feel horrible that I am. I want to feel normal again but I'm not sure if going to the doctor is just going to be a waste of money we don't have or if it would actually help. I feel kind of stupid posting this, but I don't really want to bring this up to anyone close to me in my life again. Last time I mentioned I was feeling depressed my wife got really pissed at me so sorry in advance if this is just something I need to deal with and get over. Any advice is welcome. Thanks.

-tworle00

[weaveme]

Hey man, I felt the same way when I first posted my first comment on here but you soon realize you are not alone!  In fact I think Mammo above was the first one to reply to me!  As men, it is hard for us to reach out but I am glad I have.  You need to go to a dr.  Maybe even start with the family dr first as it can take weeks to get into a psychiatrist.  It takes time but the meds will work and I would even recommend a therapist depending on your current insurance and finances.  Not having a job will make it tougher but you need to get better to be in the right frame of mind to hopefully interview and get a job!  Your symptoms are very common to having depression.  I can't say it for sure of course as I am not a dr but for men irritability, imsomnia, lack of interest in things you used to enjoy, disconnected from family etc are all signs of it.  Regardless, you know something is not right or you wouldn't be on here.  So as hard as it might be, you must go see a professional.  You have to fight it by getting the help you need.  As jcook144 stated, it took her 4 years to seek help and trust her when she says you don't want to wait that long.   I am sure she missed out on a lot in that time and you need to be healthy for yourself and for your son.  Sorry to ramble.  I just know how it is and it stinks.  So please seek help now.  

[j17c27]

You dont need to feel this way! I think you should seek help.  I had been living with depression for 4 years before I sought help.  I reccommend getting help sooner than later.  Going to a phyiciatrist will help talk about medications.  Medications will lessen the symptoms of depression while therapy will help get to the root of your issues and sort them out.  Medication and therapy combined is the best treatment.  Especially therapy if you are uncomfortable speaking with people close to you about your depression!

[bobmaster]

The fact that you feel depressed and also have trouble with sleep strongly suggests you have a serotonin deficiency. Go to a doctor and ask their opinion but I think that a SSRI antidepressant would help you a lot or a natural serotonin supplement such as 5-HTP or L-Tryptophan.

Have a look at these webpages, which go into more detail:

http://ezinearticles.com/?Serotonin-Deficiency-Syndrome---Signs-and-Symptoms&id=1770324

http://www.buzzle.com/articles/serotonin-deficiency.html

[mammo]

There is so much help for you, and depression is like any other medical condition that requires medication to control the symptoms.  Stress can wear us down, and bring on depression which normally won't go away on it's own.  This is why we have the specialists, and there are so many people dealing with depression, especially during these tough economic times!  There is absolutely no shame in this!!!!  Depression robs us of everything, our happiness, our motivation, our desire to be around friends and do the things we once enjoyed, but there is help.  I recommend a psychiatrist because they are most knowledgeable with the types of medications to treat this.  Your wife just doesn't understand depression and you may want to take her with you so the doctor can explain that this is real, and not something you can control.  You'd be amazed at how many people all around you are on medication for depression and/or anxiety.  You are not alone and cannot fight this on your own, you need to get help.  It's very common these days, know this so you don't feel so bad for needing help.  Suicide is never the naswer and may take you to an even worse place.  Your wife and son need you and you deserve a happy and fulfilling life.  You can always talk to us, we understand and do care, but please make an appt. to see a psychiatrist, and get your life back!  I wish you all the best and do take care..