After seeing my boyfriend last night and talking about why I haven't heard from him the last few days, he told me he's been "in a funk" and feeling kind of low. His parents have been separated for the last year and are now going through with a full divorce. His father had a talk with him about the divorce a couple days ago and as a result he's concerned his mother won't receive any benefits when the split becomes final. He described his feelings as "unmotivated," and "non-social," as in, he doesn't have a desire to go out and socialize; he'd prefer to stay in with his family and watch TV/lounge around. (Apparently he hasn't been in touch with his friends either and has been staying home in the evenings.) He didn't mention being sad or suicidal (thank God), but witnessing him as less than his usual excited, wise-cracking self is worrisome to me.
So, here are the facts:
1) He's 21 (which I know is a pivotal age for depression in men).
2) He told me he's had "phases" like this before, when he felt listless and unmotivated, but they passed on their own. (But he didn't put them into context, like if the low phases occurred after particular emotional upset, similar to what he's going through now--so I didn't know how to take it.)
I'm hoping this is simply a mild kind of "situational depression" in reaction to his parents' divorce, but I'd really like to hear some opinions. I myself am hyper-aware of depression, after watching my father's depression rip apart my parents' marriage as a child, and dealing with the emotional trauma of my father's attempted suicide when I was 16. So, here's to hoping I'm over-analyzing my boyfriend. Thank you in advance.