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488568 tn?1213467125

Who can i go for help?

i need help, im 16 years old.
Imy sister, she is 9 years old.
The social worker thinks she may have a Attention Deficit disorder, but my doctor disagrees.
I dont know what to do.
She wont do as shes asked, she doesn't listen to a word anyone says and starts arguments for the sake of it.
I found a note she wrote, saying how she wants to die and that my dad beats her, Which is not true, he has never laid a finger on her. She only gets a tap on the back of the legs if she is behaving really badly.
She hits my mum, She throws things at her aswell.
She tries to convince my 4 year old sister everyone hates her.
My mum had severe postnatal depression after having her.


Also my dad has an anger problem which he doesnt acknowledge. I have tried talking to a consellor about this but he couldnt help.

I cant take it anymore. I want to run away from it all. The only reason i dont is because il leave my mum with it all.
I break down every night, i feel so helpless.
Please help anyone
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488568 tn?1213467125
Thanks for all your comments, its really making me consider going on to social work and helping others.
It just all getting so much worse i think going to uni would be a good idea, to have a break from it all.
Im looking for help now. I am trying my hardest to get professionals involved but no luck so far.

Thank you everyone for your support
it means a lot
xx
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you need to go to college, if you dont, you will always regret not getting the education you need, maybe your sister, is just a spoiled child,, and used to having her way, and i think you will have to let the mom., and dad, work that out., also your dad neede to see that mom gets help. whether she wants it or not, and that is possible, you cant give up your plans for college, it will not help your family.Talk to your dad about these problems,. and if he wont listen,, then so be it, but you are a young lady, and must look to your future, also dont get bogged down, in something you cannot help with. as you have done your best, and you will have to move forward.. I know this will be hard for you as you do love your family, but it mught wake them up also.          I do wish you lots of luck  jo
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In the short term, staying home to help may seem like a good idea. In the long term, though you'll be able to do more for your mother, your sister, and for yourself with that University education tucked under your belt. Self sacrifice is a wonderful thing, indeed, but I sure hope you go ahead to the University. I'm sure your mother needs you, and she's going to continue needing you for many years to come, and a good education and diploma are valuable assets for you and your whole family. If I'd have stayed in college I could be of so much more assistance to people who need me.. the same will be true for you. I'm with ParamedFlorena.. let the counselors in on it.
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I think what could help your sister was if the school counselors got involved. It'd help you too, but the conversations would include her and her parents. It could make a really good difference for you guys.

When the conflict between her and your parents solve, it's going to get a lot easier. The school does have counselors there don't they? If not, it's better sooner than later to get someone else involved. She's under-age still.

Keep us posted!
Florena
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488568 tn?1213467125
Yes im the eldest, hopefully next year im going, but im considering not going because im afraid to leave my mum.
I dont know what to do, andi dont know where to go for help.
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Jeepers, what a rough time you're having! Well, you're the eldest, right? That makes you responsible for helping your Mom, indeed. While you're home. I had a tough time as a kid myself, and left home when I was thirteen. You're more responsible than that, good for you! However, when you're 18, you might think about yourself a little bit too.. in fact, you could start right now, planning and preparing. Are you going to go to a University? Perhaps if you begin making your escape plans now, it'll help you deal with all those burdenss you're having to carry. Seems to me you're doing well for the weight you have to carry.. better than I could have done, anyway. As long as you're doing the best you can do, you can't ask yourself for more than that.
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