hi there im a first time user of medhelp, my problem is, i feel i am going into a state of deep depression and this is the first time i have spoke about it. i have ankylosing spondylitis (AS) which is a form of arthritis, i have been taking tramadol since sept 2008, but now i feel i have got depression due to being on long term sick from my employers weetabix, lack of money comming in, allways in constant pain. i have to wait until i am issued with the correct medication, which leads me to my next point, i also have a blod condition (high haemaglobin) which give me very bad migrane headaches and make me feel sleepy, but doctors dont know what is causing it, so until they know whats causing the high haemaglobin they cant treat me with drugs for my AS and i also have type 1 diabetes. i may sound like a moaner or in self pitty but feel down all the time, people tell me all the time "your health comes before work" but NO i think my wife and kids come before anything, i want to help support them, put some money in the house, pay bills, have a bit of stability back in our life. my wife works full time but it seems after she pays the bills and rent we aint got much left, and i feel guilty because i cant help, the doctor estimates it could the end of the year before i can go back to work and do at least 80% of my job, with all of this going through my head every minute of the day i feel im going to have a nervous breakdown, im too ashamed to go and see the doctor because everyone knows me as being the joker and dependable, allways the one up for a laugh, i do try to keep putting a smile on. i feel sorry for my family because i have a loving wife who would do anything for me and i would speak to her, but dont know where to begin, i dont want anyone to think im silly or stupid, and i feel i am taking it out on my kids, allways shouting, not listening, no energy to play games with them, i just feel that im trapped between 4 brick walls in a very dark place. i just keep thinking why me? i just want to live a normal life with no illness (now i am starting the self pitty bit aint i? lol). is it normal to feel ashamed of depression and wanting to keep it to your self? is anyone going through the same thing? can anyone advise me what to do apart from the obvious answer of going to see the doctor.