dealing with pain

[eel81]

i have kidney disease. and i am suffering severe pain from this. it is really getting me down i can not do anything without being in pain. i can't even bend.... my kidneys feel swollen all the time. it is very hard to deal with as i feel guilty as i need to get my husband to do stuff after he has been at work all day. and this makes me feel so guilty and terrible. i end up doing most stuff which puts me in worse pain and then i can't sleep at night due to this. i am starting to get depressed from this. what can i do......

[luppylupus]

Hi dear>>I know how you feel. The first thing I want to tell you is your not alone. As you can tell from my name I have lupus and tons of other things and I also am in pain 24/7 and my hubby does alot of things for me after working hard all day (he works on giant tires). I also lost my right kidney in 07, it was a good thing it made the left kidney so much healthier without the bad one.. Do you have a renal doctors? Can any of the doctors help to make you comfy? Mine try to. My hubby tells me it is ok that he does things like the laundry or dishes he tells me if he didn't love me he wouldn't do it sooo yours must love you alot too.It is easy to get depressed when your sick it seems like your whole life changes and it's ok to get depressed it comes with it you wouldn't be normal if you didn't (yes your normal) yet I hate to say it some times I like being as I call it the godess in the house. I no longer drive yet I have a service who Ii can take me to dr appointments and such.If you want you can type in here any day most days I check it at least once a day and with me you can scream as much as you want I'll understand.btw my name is Cassie.

[M4Y0U]

Pain management clinics, doctors, psychotherapists are all allies.

M4