feeling sad and lonely

[mark76brew]

I'm 24 adnd right now am in a transition period. Pretty much all my friends have moved out of town or have gotten married/engaged

I still live with my mom as I had lost a job and had to move back home. I am working now but only about 30 hours a week. I really dont go out very often because I dont have any one to go out with anymore.

I have been thinking about conatctng people that I havent't talked to or seen in awhile but don't wanna look desperate or sad. I don't know

I know this happens in life, I just feel like the world passed me by

[Kayannaboo]

I completely agree with Rose.

Things change dear and what you have to do is adjust. Life is not set in stone and so from time to time unexpected events occur, some good some bad. In each situation you need to deal with it and make the most of it. Simple. I hate when people tell me to 'make the most of it' but I have come to realize that its true. You have two choices: 1. let you situation get you so down that you end up missing out on opportunities that you chose to ignore OR 2. try to find the good in the situation and rise above the bad happenings in your life.

Your friends have gotten married or are about to be married, that makes you feel as if everyone moving on and you are stuck or going backwards. I understand the feeling but you need to understand that sometimes just because we go back to a place we were coming from does not mean we are 'going backwards'. We go back to that place with a stronger mind and in a better mental state. In your case, it is going back to your parent's home. I am sure that during the time you have lived on your own, you have acquired certain knowledge and have developed as a person that while back under your parents roof, will not allow you be the same person.

Also, there is no shame in calling up old friends. None. The only way you are going to feel desperate is if you tell yourself that you are calling out of desperation which is untrue. You have lost contact with people that you enjoyed spending time with, you are simple trying to rebuild the friendship. As Rose, go out alone. I have no idea where people get that go out alone is a sin, cause its not, its actually kinda great. Persons usually do not enjoy time alone because a) they constantly tell themselves that being out alone is a crime and so the awkward feeling persists for the duration of the outing OR b) they do not enjoy themselves, they constantly need the company of others to be happy or to have fun.

I used to think so before I went to the movies alone. It has now become a guilty pleasure. So whenever I feel down or just want a good laugh, I go to the movies and watch a comedy. I go home to my family and friends in a great mood. Try it.  


xoxoxo Anna

[witheredrose]

Hi there!
I understand where your coming from..first off..there would be absolutely nothing wrong with contacting friends you havent talked to awhile and there is absolutely no way you would look desperate! They would probably be happy to hear from you! I know I would feel pretty good if one of my old friends decided to contact me. It lets you know they havent forgotten you.
also, you migbt need to just go out by yourself a few times to find some people to go out with. Theres nothing wrong with making new friends..give it a go!! Dont let this get you down! Go make some new friends, contact old friends, just simply ask if they want to do somethimg some time..i hope yoh get this straightened out good luck! Were here for ya!!!