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how to start self cure for depression?

Hello I'm 25 years old and I have depression that sets in and stays for days to weeks. Its been going on since I was a girl along with it I pull out my hair and have chronic pain and fatigue. I have weight gain and feel worthless most days. It does seem to go away when I get out and about but the simple things like a bill or a phone call can change my mood and Its so hard to get back from that point. If there is someone who has figured out a system or anything besides drugs please help. Its getting to the point where life is not as promising as I thought it was staring at the barrel of 30 years old. I fear I wont ever finish college or own my own business. I have great dreams but get derailed several weeks at a time. I'm mother to a wonderful 6 year old! He is my world and I would love to be more active with him but as I write this I am in bed. In bed is where I am most days.

Please don't read and run. God bless everyone suffering its taken a lot for me to realize this is not what life is meant to be. I am now engaged and fear that this will ruin things eventually. I only ever remember feeling balanced when I was pregnant with my son.
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695104 tn?1442197188
I have suffered with depression for many years. I sometimes think emotional pain can be worse than physical pain. I know there are many "natural" supplements that are geared toward treating depression/anxiety, but I have never taken any of them. I do see a therapist, and honestly just being able to talk things thru has helped a bunch! I also take prescription meds, and it did take a few different ones before I found the right one for me.
I notice you said you only ever remember feeling balanced when you were pregnant...have you had your hormones checked? I know you're young, but things like birth control pills can affect one's mood... It also would probably be a good idea to just have a general check up with your dr, if you haven't already, and have blood work to check everything, like your thyroid, etc.
Another thing that is helpful is trying to make sure you can have some relaxation time just for you. It's sometimes hard to do when you're a mom to a younger child, but it's really important for you to try and take the best care of you that you can..that way you're able to take care of others, too...It's not selfish to try and have even a few minutes of alone time.
I find that quilting is relaxing for me...granted I am old enough to be your mom..lol. Find what it is that you enjoy..reading a book, hobbies, etc.
Take care, and hope you feel better soon!
1551327 tn?1514049467
I suffer from bipolar.... Well I don't suffer all of the time.  Coming out of depression is difficult and when we do we hope that it never happens again.
It is a lot easier to stay out of it than to come out of it as I am sure you know.  I fight my depression by trying to stay ahead of it.  I have a lot of theories on fighting depression.  Some of them are silly but I am a silly person.  If you want to read some of them I will give you the links.  If nothing else you may be able to get a laugh out of them:

695104 tn?1442197188
I read your link, thanks for sharing it!
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No need to worry for anything like this. My friend is suffering from depression from last 6 months. He did every possivle task to get rid of depression but now he is feeling betterwhen i suggested him to have a trip with friends and enjoy the life.
I think you have bipolar disorder which can be controlled by you in some simple ways like:
Take your meds at the time properly.
Exercise daily.
Have balanced diet.
Avoid travelling to other time zones.
Improve sleeping habits like daily sleeping hours should be same.
Avoid alcohol.
Avoid illegal drugs.
Reduce stress.
Seek treatment immediately.
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Negative thoughts attract negative thoughts ... and this can lead to fear and anxiety, lack of self confidence and self esteem, depression, illness, disease, and more. And ... we help to create this for ourselves by hanging on to the negative thoughts. Perhaps not even the initial negative event but we have multiplied its effect in our mind and body by not using techniques to handle it, moving through it and learning from it. So then emotional negativity becomes a habit.

It is extremely important to express your feelings and talk about events. This can be done with friends or with a counsellor. Look at the consequences of internalising or pushing down negative feelings.

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Natural otc meds have no regulations, so there is no quality control over their purity when manufactured. A recent study found many had a purity issue because the farmers supplying the factory slipped in lots of substitutes They could also be coming from some bacteria laced environment in a chemically polluted factory in China and gel-capped in the US to make it seem like a safer product because then they are allowed to say it is manufactured in US.

Dep and anxiety feed off each other and when you get to the point that you are spending time horizontal in bed it is more difficult to get out of it. My meditation book said few people have what it takes to get out of that situation so recommended meds until you remember what it is like to be happy again. Then the meditation can keep you there, although try any non-medicine avenues now and during when you are on meds so you have a focused attitude about being happy again. My situation was like that - so depressed and anxious while living in a black world that I couldn't believe doc's orders would work but I went on the meds anyway and got stabilized.

Likely the pains and fatigue you mention are from the anxiety and depression making you over-analyse your body looking for signs that something is wrong. It is a vicious circle so a good place to start is either imagine you don't have pains and they are in your head for a few days but if that doesn't work go to doc to see if there is anything wrong - If doc tells you the pains don't exist and are just anx nagging at you and making your nerves twitch here and ouch there all the while raising your anx, accept the diagnosis and try to move on to where you used to be when a pain here and there gave you no concern because you didn't think you were physically ill.
Write back.
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Please forgive my absence my sister came into town. I talked to my sister and honestly I feel a lot better. My life is close to perfect everything I've ever wanted is happening. Some how the move from South Carolina to Texas took a major toll on me. I didn't realize how far I fell until I saw hair balls in every room on every arm rest. I kept saying I gonna roll the same ball so I don't pull anymore but those were just words.

My sister took me out to get my hair don't and mani/pedi!!! My fiancé was in awe! He always tells me how pretty I am but he was speechless because I hide my hair under a hat like always and wouldn't let him touch it like always. I came out from showering and gave he a major shock I even wore a little makeup.

My sister helped me realize I love to doll up and I've always been a sassy type. She told me she didn't know me in this form. Her big sister never owned a t-shirt. I cried as she told me that I was about to ruin what I've always wanted; my family and peace of mind. I am crying as I write this, I was really at wits end and my kid sister gave me the strength to pull myself back. I'm not totally out but this is the first few days in a while I didn't have a headache upon waking. I know its more going on than just my psyche my body is seriously out of whack. I will get things checked out soon.

1551327 tn?1514049467
It was good to hear from you and you sound sooo much better.  I hope this continues and if I don't see you on here I will assume you are still doing good.  Come back anytime :)
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Your right everyone needs time and I actually crochet, make cheese, and have house plants that I tend to as needed. I have implemented a date night because it seems to be the only thing missing. lol I know that may sound nuts but before the move I spent a lot of time hanging out with my mother and sister. Its crazy we don't get along the best but nothing can tear us apart. Any how thanks a lot for the advice I will try to do something soothing.
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Thank you this forum was very helpful and I am beyond thankful that help was just a click away. I never thought to open up online before. I will keep in touch.
480448 tn?1426952138
Hello and welcome!  It's so nice to see that you're feeling better!  

It's not at all surprising that you started exhibiting these signs after your move.  ANY major life change can cause stress and things like anxiety and depression.  If this all just started after you moved, and you had no history of this before, I would be willing to bet the move was the main trigger.  People can have "situational" anxiety or depression.  That would be the symptoms of anxiety and depression as a result of a life stressor, not as a chronic illness.  Situational depression usually resolves once the stressor has been eliminated or dealt with, but sometimes, it can stick around, especially if a person kind of rolls over and gives up at the first sign of trouble.

I'm so glad you're feeling better, just keep your guard up and stay aware of how you're feeling.  Getting engaged back in life is the perfect way to address this.  Sometimes, after you've started isolating yourself and withdrawing from social situations, it's a little tough to get back to "normal".  You may have days where you have to push yourself a little bit.  Having a variety of hobbies in your life is very fulfilling, that will help a lot, so be sure to continue to do those things you enjoy.  Just be patient with yourself, and kind to yourself.

If you notice that the feelings you mentioned in your initial post are sort of hanging around, even after you've put some effort forth in pushing yourself more, then it would be time to talk to a professional.  Just be aware of how you're feeling and definitely don't brush anything under the rug.

Best to you, keep us posted!
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