Awesome news about the job, and you felt you had no friends! I think not only would this be good for you but you would have a blast and meet lots of new people. Also, it's a great way to network into other job opportunities eventually. You will develop a work history which can lead to other things. I'm really excited for you. This will give meaning to your life, and give you a reason to get up every every day, and take care of yourself. I would contact a psychiatrist and just tell him what you told us, and he will take the lead from there. There are good and bad therapists, and I saw several before I found one I felt comfortable with. Therapy helps some, but not everyone. It helped me to a point, but I still have to take medication everyday. But you have to view it like any other condition, if you were told you had diabetes you wouldn't think twice about taking the needed medication, and depression is no different. But because you are so young, I think you will beat this as things improve in your life, I truly do. One thing to be careful with in therapy is if they start talking about a topic that angers you, just remind yourself that there is a reason it's making you angry. It means he is getting close to what's truly bothering you and you don't want to face it, so you get angry. Just push thru it because the fear of facing the problem is worse than the problem. Now if you feel the therapist is a jerl or doesn't have a clue, move on. A psychiatrist can give you therapy or refer you to one, just be honest with him about "why" you didn't like the last one. You're taking the first big step towards getting better....good for you! Your life matters and you matter, don't allow your past define or determine who and what you are today! Stay in touch!
People with mood disorders loose life to symptoms like that 8 to 10 years of there lives feeling like u do hun. Go see a psychologist and tell em everything there is hope we live with this stuff everyday hun and noone should suffer in agony for something treatable get in to seek kelp asap and start getting better. I hope u feel better soon. My heart goes out to u as Iv went through alot of what u have too and Im getting better its so worth it !
the guy next door to me said he'd pay for my treatment if i work for him. he wants me to play
guitar at his coffee shop every few weeks for a several months and also work from 9-5 there. i knew he had a coffee shop so i asked him if he liked blues guitarist/singers at his shop. i told him i need money to help pay for treatment. really nice guy, he said i could work for him and play every few weeks too. im pretty sure he didnt even need another person at his shop but he just wanted to help. i havnt had a gig in years! never had a job, i have feeling job will be good for me and get me out house more.
i have a question for you guys. how would i go about getting treatment. when i find a doctor what do i ask him? what is the most effective medication if he wants me on it? and what better therapy, psychiatry, or what? i really dont know how this all works. when i did therapy few years ago i stopped going i hated it, does everybody hate it? or did i have a bad person? somebody please help guide me what to do.
tnx for the nice comments nice to wake up to somebody being optimistic towards me
Hi, firstly i think your main problem is putting yourself down, you keep saying noone likes you do you know this for definate? i bet more people like you than you realise but your lack of confidence says otherwise. Id say you definately have depression which you need to find someone to talk to about. And as for showering, that just seems like pure laziness and just try and think to yourself how much better you will feel if you are a cleaner person and try to get into a routine of cleanliness. Brush your teeth morning and night, shower every other day etc, even if you think you can't be bothered it don't take long. Take one step at a time and you will be ok. If you take more pride in yourself you will feel more happy and confident and then you might not feel like so much of a failure hope this helps, sorry if it doesn't :) chin up though x
You have come to the right place, and we're glad you're here! First of all, I don't think that you are screwing up everything at this point. You are finding closed doors now as a result of your past, so the big thing to do is put a period on those days and move on emotionally. People do, and can turn their lives around, and it starts with baby steps. One thing you have to realize is that there are so many unhappy people out here, and many suffering with their own demons. Everyone paints a happy picture on facebook, they're not going to tell all they've been thru or that they are struggling financially, have a cheating spouse etc. TV shows do not reflect real life, they're actors! So, you need to quit comparing yourself to others. You should have stayed in therapy because this can be such a big help to you. There are thousands and thousands of people in therapy, it's nothing to be ashamed of. Often while in therapy, it can appear to get worse before it gets better, but it only means that your touching on the things that have affected you and your thinking, and you must keep going. You should be eligible for public assistance with medical care, so look into this and find a psychiatrist to work with therapy and medication. You are self medicating and you know this is a slippery slope, that it just lightens the load for awhile, but it will be there when you sober up. So, decide today that you do have choices, maybe not the ones you want right now, but you have to start somewhere. You are suffering from depression, I'm not a doctor but I have it as all of us on here do. You will meet a lot of nice people here who truly understand where you're coming from, so stay with us. There is always someone to talk to and share with, and they will share their experiences with you. You are not alone in this. I'm sure there are other agencies in your city that can help you in other ways with finding work. There are companies who do hire people right out of prison, so you need to get pro-active and keep going until you find who will hire you. Get pro-active in every aspect with your life, emotionally and financially. Depression can rob you of your desire to do anything, or enjoy life, so you have to fight back. Do things you need to do even though you don't feel like it. You're going to have to force yourself, and the more you do this the better. Get out if only to walk, but get out. Take care of yourself, find the strength to get up and do these things. You truly need to address your emotional health, so look into public assistance and go from there. Once you can start feeling better with this depression, the more you can do. We're here for you, so stay with us. Read other's questions and stories on here and you will see quickly that life is not always easy or happy, but you can turn that around. Most of all you will make friends, and learn how others overcame their own problems, or are still dealing with them. Don't give up on yourself, you have a second chance to make it right and live the happy life you desire. You're so young, and your past is just that. It may make it harder right now, but as you turn things around it will get better. You just have to prove yourself, mostly to YOU! Take care......