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Well here is my story.  I am infertal.  I have tried everything and nothing works.  It seems like all I think about is having a baby, but there is nothing else I can do about it.  My situation has ran me down.  I feel so down about it and ask myself, why me.  I have OCD, anxiety and feel like a faliure on the baby making thing.  There is nothing left for me to think positively about, it seems like everyone else that was infertal is no longer, and its like why can't that be me.  I try so hard to find a positive in my life but its really hard to do.  I feel like I sleep all the time,don't get out to do anything especially in the winter time, and I don't have a good relationship with my mother or father or sister.  They don't understand my desire to have a child.  No one really does, except those who are going through my situation.  I guess I need more encouragement in my life and don't know where to find it.  Fertility issues are so private that I guess no one really know what to say to someone that is suffering.  I wish that the saying, "this to shall pass" would truely come true. I so wish my problems would pass.I thought about talking to a therapist but I don't know.  I have a hard time seeing the benefits of talking to someone, what do you all think?
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I am so sorry that this has happened to you. I can't imagine someone not understanding your desire to have a baby!  Have you thought about adoption?  My son is able to have children but won't due to an hereditary disease that took his dad, brother, nephew and father, so I know what this does to one.  He loves kids.  He looks at his 3 dogs like they're his children, it's the best he can do.  I truly feel therapy would help you a lot, and you would learn coping skills.  Have you thought of volunteering in areas that would put you with children or would that make it worse for you? I think you would be great at mentoring children, or as a Big Sister, etc. I think there are big plans for you, and you may not see it now, but we all serve a purpose. I've been thru therapy and it helped a lot.  As sad as you are, you need to find a passion, and get your life back, where you can be happy.  Therapy can help you to do this. I wish I had more to offer, it just seems so unfair!  We will talk to you about it, so if it helps, stay with us during your journey.  Sometimes having people to talk with or just vent to, helps a lot.  We're always here.....take care.
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Talking is fantastic and to have a therapist can be a great help.  They are there for you, you dont' have to worry about upsetting them, about what they have to say, you share and they help.
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