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please i want help !!

hi.. i am a normal 19years boy.i feels like depression , i also attempt two suicide
i am very emotional and sensitive boy.
dont know why i cried at night for no reason and feels like betrayed
my father died 4months ago so , i dont share anything with my mother because she is already emotional for me.
i just need help
no one understand me !!
don't want to live  
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4851940 tn?1515694593
I am sorry to hear of the loss of your father and especially how it has affected you.

You are going through bereavement.
You must have been very close to your father and miss him very much.  It is very normal for you to feel very low, depressed and cry for having lost your close parent.  

Do NOT take your own life.  Your father would not want you to do that.  Imagine how sad and hurt he would be if you ended your life.  
You have so much life ahead of you, to learn and see new things and meet different people.

Now you may think 4 months is a long time and you may feel bad because you still feel so sad, this is very normal.  4 months is a very short time.  Bereavement time is different to different people.  It took me 5 years to come to terms with the death of my grandmother who I was very close to and loved dearly.  Yet I felt guilty when she died and rock bottom.  

Make an appointment to see your doctor urgently and ask for help.  He may put you on antidepressants to get you through this very low time.  Bear in mind that any antidepressant can take a few weeks before you feel any benefit and if it does not work, there are different types of medications available.  Ask your doctor to refer you to bereavement counselling or find a bereavement counsellor that you can see.

If you have a faith and belong to a church, see the vicar or priest for help to get you through your rough time and also pray for strength to get you through this.  Don't forget that your father does NOT want you to end your life.  He would want you to live your life and experience everything that life has to offer.

If it helps you, go to your father's resting place and talk to him.  Sometimes people find this helps them.  Remember that the spirit of your father is with you all the time, even if he is not there with you in body.

Best wishes.
11886720 tn?1422027242
am sorry to hear.. would you consider talking with a counslor they would help you through your fathers death and any problems you have am here for you
6726276 tn?1421126668
Tell us more about other things you can do to cope.
  Meet with friends or eml.
   Exercise
   Crafts, art work.
    Watch funny movie.
    If you feel you are a danger to yourself and can not cope, check into the hospital. They will know what to do, you may only need medication.
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thank you for your reply , it means a lot.
i have many friends but all of them only call me when they need any type of help because they know i can't say no.
because of this i betrayed many times.
everytime i tried to sleep ,this things go across my mind and makes me like hell.
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thank you for your reply , it means a lot.
i have many friends but all of them only call me when they need any type of help because they know i can't say no.
because of this i betrayed many times.
everytime i tried to sleep ,this things go across my mind and makes me like hell.
4851940 tn?1515694593
It is very difficult to say "no" to people and especially when you are feeling so low.  I've been through the same.

Think about the type of friends that you have and if they ask for something, reply by saying "I would love to help you, but I am not able to at this time."  That way you are not actually saying no, but also not committing yourself to do what they want.  Don't let them sway you do what they want.  You do not have to explain why.  

In time you will be able to say "no" as you start to feel stronger and gain more confidence.

It could be that these friends are "putting on you" to help you through your bereavement.  But you know these friends best and if they are not supportive, but "using" you for their gains, you do need to be firm and not allow yourself to be "used".

You have to put your health and well being as top priority.  

Be selective with choosing your friends.  It is better to have 1 very good friend than lots of no good ones.  Only be around people that are good for you.  Those that are supportive and don't put you down.  

You may find writing down all your emotions in your private diary may help you rather than keeping those thoughts inside of yourself.

Best wishes.


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yeah.. you are right
thank you for reply and listen to me.
i am planning to meet an doctor because my condition gets worse day by day.
i feel irritated all the time and this affect my studies and my mother because she don't know what is running in my mind.
4851940 tn?1515694593
Glad to know that you are going to see your doctor to get help.

Let me know how you get on and if you do have any problems, we are here to help.

Take care.

Best wishes.
11886720 tn?1422027242
best wishes

i hope you get well
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