Hi there- I've been watching this column for a few weeks now. I was hoping you would let me know what the biopsy diagnosis was of those bumps you had taken off by your derm about a month ago- the bumps that broke into little hard balls and then bled- bled more than your average popped pimple. You thought they were either warts or molluscum. I am curious as my husband and I have the same little "bumps". I am in Canada, and it is a 6-12 month wait in my area to get into a dermatologist (or should I say THE dermatologist- there is only one). That is- after you've managed to convince your GP that you really need to see one. So, out of curiousity, what was the verdict?
I also wanted to reach out to you on a personal level. You seem to be completely preoccupied with getting warts or any other STD. I mean, how much time do you spend each day searching the internet, thinking about it, and examining yourself? Alot, right? Alot- to the point that it is interferring with your day to day life. I'm not making fun of you- here I am myself- worried that I have something bad. But I wish there was something I could say to alleviate some of your anxiety. It's something that you need to let go of. Don't let it dictate your day to day activities. Having warts suck- yes. Having herpes- also *****- yes. And I can say both with experience. Both diagnosis came to me after I was married and in a monogamous relationship (13 years now). I think "monogamous"- I can speak for myself and my husband denies any extra-martial activities (naturally I question that at times- I'm not naive, but he is a wonderful guy- I just can't see it- and he shows no signs of either infection himself). The biggest problem is what it has done to my self- esteem. I feel dirty and broken. But let's put that into perspective. It's not a terminal disease. I'm not going to die from either. In fact, it's given me the heads up to get annual screening for cervical cancer. I'm at higher risk- so I know to watch for it. Women that carry the disease latently (there's alot of them) will only be told to be screened every 5 years. I'm ahead of the game there. And think about it- we can have warts on our hands and herpes on our lips- where everyone can see it and that's ok. You can get plantar warts from pretty much any pool changing room and people think that's ok. But anything below the belt- and the stigma is slapped on. It's assumed you were doing something bad to get it. Oh really? We were doing what everyone else on the planet does, but we get the stigma. It's a shame really that society has to take such a arrogant stand. I wonder how many more people would step forward and be responsible for treatment and disclosure of an STD if there wasn't such a horrible stigma around it. Anyhow, I just wanted to try to tell you that there are others out there, feeling like you feel- worried sick about having or getting an STD. If it is the actual sexual encounter that you had that is your biggest concern- you are feeling bad, guilty, or or just plain stupid about it- there is nothing you can do to change what has happened. You know never to do it again. There are lots of different things you can do to avoid getting infectious diseases- things that will lessen your chances. But the only 100% fool proof way to avoid it is to never have sex. Unfortunately, you won't live any longer if you never have sex. It will just feel longer. Chin up.
Your question is, ". . . can I accept this diagnoses as accurate and finally move on with my life?"
My answer is: Yes!
I agree with everything your dermatologist said, I too have seen thousands of warts but never flat warts on the scrotum. That, plus the fact that your obviously experienced dermatolgist looked at you and said what he did seem completely convincing to me.
Vinegar tests are unreliable--vinegar lights up lots of things that aren't warts. Don't apply vinegar and drive yourself crazy.
If you see something funny, show a doctor so you can find out and relax.
Best.
Dr. Rockoff