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Thinking of getting a divorce

I have been married about 5years to my husband. He has a son, the ex left when the child was 5months old.  I am going through so much problems because of his son. This son hates me.  I do so much for him. Everything I do. Buy things, paying the school fees. Even when we buying junk im the one who keeps buying for the child. But now the pressure is getting to me.  I have been so unhappy. The son fights with me chases me away from the house. Tells me to leave. Has a problem with everything I do. Its like he is trying to be me in the house. When I talk to my husband we always end up fighting or he says im insulting him. I feel like he is making excuses for his son. His son has ADD/ADHD and that to I was the one who managed to get the help for the child, put him in a school that can help him.  But my husband is in denial. He thinks the child is going to go to study and become an accountant or teacher. He is 12 he still cant read. Only now he can manage to read two letter words. He is only in grade 3. I don't expect my husband to choose between us so the best is to leave and give them both a piece of mind.
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This is a very sad story.  I feel that intervention for this poor child is important.  He's academically in a tough spot.  What are they doing to help him?  Does he take medication?  I agree that he needs parents that are working together to help him.  If you can't do that, then it is best to leave.  If you feel also that you are unhappy and don't want to be a part of this, you can choose to leave also.  But it's sad.  I have a boy who just turned 13.  Do you know pushing away those who care for them is very normal at that age.  Pushing boundaries.  Being difficult. Being emotionally hard to deal with are all hallmark signs of the preteen and early teen years.  He may need you more than you'll ever know.  But it's ultimately your life and you have to do what you feel is best.  good luck
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Trust me I want to be part of both of their lives. I noticed the child as a problem as soon as I got married the very first day when I stepped into the house. I managed to get him help. He is on medication and he is attending a clinical school. The more I do for him and give him everything, the more the child pushes me away. I cannot be anywhere with his father. If I cook then my food is a problem. The only time he is nice to me is when Im buying him nice things. Other then that he doesn't want me near him or his father. I just don't know what to do anymore. How to help him.
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