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Will my wife leave me?

My wife is on 100mg zoloft and we have been having troubles lately, she said she’s feeling numb towards me so she is having to see if she is happy with or without me. She has been asking and saying stuff like if we broke up that month or so later she could possibly want me back or if we broke up and i got with someone else but she wanted me back what would i do. She hasn’t felt numb towards me before even when we were having problems. She has been on zoloft for a while now and she said she always felt like this but pushed it to the back, but she has never used the word numb before. She has to make an appointment for a refill and she is going to tell her doctor about that. Could it be the medicine that is making her feel like this and question if she wants to be with me? If so how long will the numb feeling last? What other anti anxiety medicine can she take that won’t cause this feeling?
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20841821 tn?1547942964
I am sorry for you marriage difficulties. In a marriage or relationship there are so many variables. In your case Zoloft is only one variable. Would she be willing to go to couple counseling. Being able to discuss difficult issues with a neutral third party would be best practice.
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She doesn’t want to go to counseling, she says i’m the one who needs counseling and that if we did counseling before she might have gone to it
973741 tn?1342342773
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I agree that I'm sorry to hear this and your marriage difficulty and that there are many variables involved.

Do I think taking Zoloft makes her numb to you?  Not really, I'm sorry.  What other words could she use for numb?  Indifferent?  That comes probably from a place of having various feelings over the past few years that have been hard and now she is treating depression and she questions what changes she wants to make in her life. But she isn't fully sure and that is why she is asking questions like "what if I change my mind?  what if you find someone else during our break up?" She's not sure what to do but doesn't feel the same about you as she had.
That's just my take on it from the outside looking in with the little tiny bit you've written. Which means I also could be totally wrong.  

Zoloft will take the highs and lows away to some extent but takes 6 to 8 weeks to work.  It doesn't make you totally numb from emotion but takes the edge off so you cope better.  You still get sad. You still get mad. You still feel joy. You still get excited. Or at least you should.  If she doesn't . . . about ALL things and not just you, then she does need to talk to her doctor.  

What kinds of marriage issues were you having prior? Why does she say you need counseling?  What are the issues and we'll see if we can help!  I hope it all works out for you!
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She said she was the only one to put in effort, and i have talked to her doctor about these feelings and other side affects i noticed. Something else worth noting is her dad passed away not too long ago and she wasn’t nearly as sad or upset as she should have been
973741 tn?1342342773
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Well, everyone handles grief differently.  I'm sorry though that she is acting different than she has previously or as you'd expect her to under different situations.  What are the marital issues she complains about?  When she says you didn't make effort, what is she talking about?  Where was the break down in your relationship even before she went on medication?
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973741 tn?1342342773
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Hey jdbeers, how is it going?  It's been a month  --  how are things looking now?  We're here to talk to if you need it!
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