it could be you are co-dep on him, and maybe he found someone else to lean on. I have found the more you do for someone the more they hurt you.
No I am not co depen on him. I want to know how men justify hurting their families. How they rationalize doing this is ok by them.
Is he depressed or on meds
hows his job?
any major events in the last year besides his father dying.
is this the first time he wanted to leave?
I don't know if he is depressed, He walks around happy. He say's he loves his job. He lost his father and a close friend last year.
I always thought we had a loving marriage. Guess he fooled me
Sounds like you did have a loving marriage for almost 31 years, however people change and grow apart for some reason. Love is never constant it is alway evolving.
Question? are you happy and do you love your self?
No I am not happy I just lost my husband, who I love more than anything. People change yes, but overnight? This does not make sense to me and I just don't understand how a man can justify to himself that this is ok to do to his wife and kids. Selfish I think.
I do love myself, but this is a trying time as you can see for me. It's only been 3 weeks.