My culture is so different from Yours that I don't know how to offer advice that would be helpful but I do want to send my sincere words and tell You that my heart is heavy for Your pain and suffering. I hope someone here can offer You something of value.
you stop being mentally,physically and emotionally abused when you actually STOP IT.
I hope you are doing well today.I believe we are from the same culture and this is my input to your situation;Give him a reality check;leave him and stand on your feet;Kick him out of your house;
My story is almost exactly like yours except for the difference that the husband(now STBX) was such a B******* that he would not have a child with me but slept with me;His family was brain-washed by him.
After 11 years of dirty life long humiliating separation(near divorce in between),and now finally getting divorced.
I had agreed to mutual divorce but now he is contesting it blaming me with false allegations;
I am 29 myself,have no kid.I am working on getting stable financially and start a self-dependent healthy life;
And I also plan tolose weight and become fit;
I feel that may be your husband loves you but he needs to mend his ways;If you have the courage to stand for yourself,and ask him to leave may be he will come to his sense;If not I would suggest that you should leave him and start a happy an dhealthy life alone.
take care and do post back.
Thanks , i was actually not expecting any comment, cos its the first time on internet that i seeked help. my heart is light with just a thought of seeing 2 comments. all the time in these years i only had husband in my life that i forgot theres a big world outside, thank u sincerely for writing to me, hope i get the strenth of showing my husband that i m not dependent on him anymore.
dear people, pleas help me,.,, i am emotionally shattered, i get panic at the very thought of mil, because she again caused rift in my marriage. my husband went tout of station for 4 days and she cald me , i had to manage my child as its his first winter, so i talk only few mins with her. she complained to my husband and when he came back he physically assaulted me at 2 pm in the night. in the morning i cald his sister to tell all this , but he put all the blame on me and both of them abused me, i am shattered . because he says his parents, brother sisters, there children and their family are his ppriority and me and my child are the last on his mind. he cannot leave his family and his family cannnot live with me,, what should i do??? i have left everything for this person but he has made my life hell, he had said to everyone tthat i am a pshycho, i am mad, but what should i do, i scream because i cant take it. i need my husband but he needs only his family, what should i do????? in india divorce is big thing but his family have decided that they will not accept me and even if i am right i do the way they tell me, they will always judge me and speal illl to my husband, and this ******* will listen to them and believe them. i am in hell, i cant do anything .. pls help me... pls.
Stop being in the hell.GO away and file for divorce.The situation in India is difficult for a divorced women but times are changing.Get a job and live peacefully.Do not take his mental and emotional torture.
As a chld did you grow up to live this life.Was this your fairy tale.Nobody is at fault but just for you are letting all this nonsense happen to you.
I just hope you have the sanity to ove out immediately.
Divorce him.. god will led you to a better man one day..you need a man not a mama's boy