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Do all men cheat??

I dont want to sound completely ridiculous and naive...but I'm serious here. Do ALL men cheat?! I mean, is it not possible for a man to love and cherish a woman so much that he'd commit to her 100%? Do they not understand how incredibly painful and hurtful it is to be betrayed by the one they LOVE?? I have been in two serious, fully-committed relationships - one of which was an engagement - and I couldnt even FATHOM the idea of ever cheating, lying, or knowingly hurting my partner's feelings. I have been lied to and betrayed by my ex-fiance and I cannot get over the "Why's" and "How could you's".  Will I ever find someone who actually cares?
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637356 tn?1301924822
Not all men cheat and not only is it men that cheat. Some do it for the excitement, some for the chase, and some because they are missing something at home. Not saying the last one pertains to you but just saying.

Yes you will find someone out there that will love you fully and will not cheat on you at all!
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145992 tn?1341345074
I wish I could answer that question for you.  I thought I had a good one but you know what he cheated.  I think there are some good men out there but I think for the most part a lot of them do cheat.  I hate to say that and I'm sure I will get h e l l for thinking that way but I don't have much faith in them.  But don't be fooled a lot of women cheat as well.
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237152 tn?1206651036
I'm a man and I have never cheated on my wife, nor will I ever.  I have never cheated on any g'f's from the past either.  I have been cheated on.  So no, not all men cheat, and yes, more women than you realize cheat.  In my experience I have seen more women cheat than men.  True!
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Oh, I'm not at all denying that women cheat too! I've had gal friends that have cheated and I know it's not uncommon. I NEVER have and coudnt even fathom the thought of it.
I just am lost and hopeless right now and am hoping and praying that I will meet a man someday that will love me and be true....
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nope. girls have an easier time cheating in my opinion for a couple of reasons. most guys will not care if a girl is in a relationship if they don't know the guy, and even if they're friends. and... a girl can go to a bar and find a guy no problem where as a guy has to work for it 90% of the time. if the guy already has it he won't want to work for it.

i have never cheated, but have been cheated on so i guess when it happens to you, you get the feeling everyone cheats
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484465 tn?1532214032
"Do ALL men cheat?!"  the reason so many men fall into the 'all men' generalized category is b/c most men are dumb (sorry men lol)  so that's why it's safe to say yes, they all do
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212161 tn?1599427282
no,no i have a awesome man, we have been married 24 years and hes never cheated on me hes the best
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No, not all men cheat.

Unfortunately, some do.  More unfortunately, plenty of women are naturally attracted to the sort of man who is a habitual cheater, and find themselves cheated on again and again until their heart is broken and give up hope of ever finding a decent man.

There are good, decent, honest men out there, but they are not always the most obvious, outgoing, attractive, self-confident men.  The flash gits are attractive, but they have a skill at being liars and cheaters, so they do.

IMHO, of course!!
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599170 tn?1300973893
not all men,,but most do..given the right cirumstances...justifying it ,,they think with their penis not their brain every time.
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The statistics are about even.  One of my Psych instructors put it this way "A sexual relationship is a microcosm of the relationship as a whole."

Realistically women want to have sex with people they think they love, while men think thhey love people they have sex with.  Kind of sad either way if you think about it.

I take it this is not really the real question but whether not there are any men you can trust with your love?
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Nope, I got a true blue. Not sure tho if he stays faithful out of love or fear! lol.  Hang in there, you will find your true blue if you do not settle for anything less.
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Thank you everyone. I'm hanging on to hope that I will someday (hopefully sooner than later) find a man who will love me and stay true and not even be capable of hurting me like that.  I'm having an extremely difficult time bouncing back from this breakup and all his lies and betrayal!!
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694885 tn?1232649948
98.9% do....My son however who just got married know that I WILL BEAT the living SH*T out of him if he hurts my new Daughter In-Law.

He has watch his stepfather do this SH*T to me and should have learned this lesson;

IF YOUR NOT HAPPY GET OUT
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497868 tn?1212223282
yes, I would say all the men cheat I am with my BF for 4 years but I do believe he cheat on me, and yes I will cheat on him he if he cheats on me. Men are very selfish
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It's just the few men who do... that make the rest of the men look bad!
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362249 tn?1441315018
No they all DONT! My DH comes from a family FULL of cheaters and hes exactly the opposite!! He's loving and caring and always wants to come straight home to me!! Just depends on the dude!!
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144586 tn?1284666164
No.
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144586 tn?1284666164
Let me qualify that.

(1) No. All men do not cheat.

(2) There is good chance you will find a loyal loving husband and spend the rest of your lives enjoying each and every day.
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hai ,..i think most of them cheats,...
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773801 tn?1244520679
I am currently going through a divorce because my husband cheated on me so I can feel your pain but to answer your question it would be No not all men cheat. I know very good healthy, loving, married men that love and respect their wives. It does give me faith that maybe one day I will run into one myself but as of now I can't settle for less. There is no excuse to being a dog. I don't have the problem with cheating and never have because it takes a lot for someone to take their clothes off spread their legs and have sex, sometime during the touching and kissing the committed person should say I CAN'T do this. My husband cheated and now he wants me to forgive something he did but I know that when he was with the other women he was loving having his fun while I was sitting home worrying where he was.
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It's pot luck ladies and gentlemen pot luck
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im a good man..i wont cheat on any women that i commited to!!  but alot of women dont even want there men to have female friends..and thats were alot of things go bad
!! wear  the man  gets fed up with the jealous stuff and has a affair...i know it would kill me also if my women did this..BUT TO UR QESTSHION...NO NOT ALL MEN DO!!!!!!!!  WHEN YOU HAVE THIS HAPPEN TO YOU FROM ONE OF US MEN THEN UR MORE LIKEY TO FEEL THIS WAY.....I  hear women all the time saying a man thinks with is u know what!!  and its probaly true  but women do the same thing......good luck to you!!! james
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All men do not cheat but many men do. Every person is differant. As a man it can sometime take an extreamly strong effort to compel advancing woman, especially when alcohol is involved or the underlining sexual gratification. There are many things that go into a man cheating, attraction, openess, fun, but a strong man will resist the urge and stay faithful to the woman in his life. Don't misunderstand me as during my first marriage I did have relationships with other woman. I needed that emotional connect though, I'm like a woman in some ways. Some men just do it for the sex. It's something we want. might I suggest that you try doing something differant when it comes to pleasing your man, make it more exciting. Keep him interested, mind you he needs to make an effort too but start with you and see where it goes. I hope thingswork out between you two.
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Well of course not ALL men, but I believe that we are animal like, with their tendencies.  I also think that it is in our human nature to procreate.  Men are physical and women are mental/emotional.  Then there is the factor of self control, in which men seem to have a hard time dealing with self control, especially with their sexual hormones, in which women 'think' and analyze everything.

Am I biased, absolutely.  I haven't met a man to this day that isn't as faithful as his options.
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