Your story breaks my heart as I lost my 14-year-old dog, Chica, to this exact disease on January 4. The vomiting is so awful to watch in the end as it just goes on and on and on...
There are many anti emetic meds to try. Has your vet not prescribed anything? Reglan (metoclopromadine) is a very cheap medication, unfortunately, it is also metabolized in the kidneys, so a too high dose results in toxic levels in the blood. My husband and I discovered that completely bypassing the GI tract by using reglan injections worked much better in the end. Chica didn't get the extra pyramidal side effects (extreme restlessness, shaking and trembling) from the reglan injections that she got from the oral meds. Our vet drew up a dozen or so prefilled syringes, and we administered them just under the skin at the back of the neck. If you're already doing sub-q fluids, this won't be any different.
I take phenergan myself for constant nausea, and discovered late in the game that dogs can also take phenergan. It didn't work quite as well as the reglan, but at that point we tried anything we could get our hands on. Over the counter Dramamine for motion sickness can be tried as it is metabolized in the liver - got that info from an ER vet nearby. Benadryl is also something of an anti-emetic, and can be given at 1 mg per pound of the dog's weight, but I doubt it will be very effective in the face of this kind of vomiting. Worth a try though.
Another thing that helps is calcium - lots of it. I was giving Chica 2 Tums a day during her last couple of months. The calcium binds to phosphorus which is deadly to those in renal failure. As you already know, nothing can cure this disease, so all you can do is manage the symptoms as best you can.
If you can stand it, check out the several journal articles I wrote on my profile here at Med Help regarding Chica and our "adventure" with end-stage renal failure. You and your husband are doing the same things we did, and your Sandy Grace sounds like the exact same temperament as our Chica. She never did give it up either, which made it so much more difficult to make the decision. It's all in my journal though. I just can't bring myself to rewrite the story. :-(
Just checking in to see how things are going. I hope you've had some kind of "sign" to help you with your decision. :-(
Thank you so much for your caring and informative response. The TUMS help! My vet and the specialist that we took Sandy Grace to wanted us to put her down since her numbers were so high. But, we knew in our hearts that Cissy (we call her Cissy because she has an adopted brother "Charleston Hershey" who is also a lab that we got from rescue . . .his nickname is Bubber and Sandy Grace is Cissy) was not ready to leave us. She is not in pain, but most uncomfortable with the throwing up. She is doing better with this since I am giving her tums. Cissy weighs around 95 pounds, so I am disolving four tums in water and administering by a syringe. I know this is short lived, but she finally accepted some shredded chicken that I had cooked for her. Her mom and dad are fighting so hard for her and I know we will have to make that decision very soon, but honestly she is not ready yet. I read your journals and I cried for Chica, you and your husband. Jerry (my husband) and I feel your pain as we are living it. We have shared so many special times with Cissy and Bubber. We love primitive camping, the beaches, and any outdoor activities that we could include our babies in. We are having the hardest time letting go, but I pray that we will know when to stop. She is drinking water, eating some of the chicken; so as long as she is willing, wagging her tail, able to go outside and enjoy, we will continue the fight. My family and friends are supportive, but now they want us to let go. How can I make that decision as long as she is fighting? Well, it is time to give Cissy her Tums, thank you so much for your concern and we shall keep in touch. aggieone
Bless your hearts. Yes, I know exactly what you all are going through, and it's the worst thing I've ever been forced to deal with where one of my animals is concerned. I'm so glad she's doing a bit better with the Tums. Did your vet give you anything at all for the nausea? If not, MAKE HIM! I totally agree with your decision to wait a while longer, so do everything you can to keep her as comfortable as possible.
The way renal failure is supposed to work when it's Time, is that the toxins build up so high in the blood that they cross the blood-brain barrier. When that happens, the dog loses its personality and really isn't "there". Well, that's the textbook case. It never really happened with Chica. She just got slower and slower and finally stopped eating the last couple of days, but her personality was still intact. She still knew us and her pack mate, Maggie.
Please speak with your vet about having some sedation on hand before you take Cissy in. If she's going to be like Chica, the last thing your baby will know is going to sleep with you and your husband by her side. Had we not done that for Chica, she would have tried so hard to do her usual routine of sticking her nose out the window and barking at everyone along the way. Neither one of us could have handled that. Of course, hubby being the big fat baby that he is, I was the one who had to give Chica her last pills. I'm choking up again just thinking about it, so I'll stop this line of thought...
We also arranged for private cremation and return, so ask about that ahead of time if you want to go that way. Chica was the 2nd dog we've had cremated (my husband just can't deal with back yard burial) so I figure when it's my turn, they'll all just go in the box with me. :-)
Cissy (Sandy Grace) is much worse from mid yesterday to present. She is still drinking some, but not enough to count-has not urinated since early this morning. Syringe feeding and medications is hopeless now as she will not swallow and work with me; everything just runs back out the side of her mouth I put it in, I bathe her each time and she loves that. She is ready to go now and we must help her . Like Chica, she still has her wonderful personality, but she is so weak. Sandy has always cleaned herself like a cat, always loved it when you brag on how beautiful she is, she is having accidents now and she knows it, she is humilited when I have to wash her bottom. I can't let this go on any longer. Our vet is coming out tomorrow at 11:00 a.m. to help her go easily. He will slightly sedate her first. She will be on her loveseat with her head resting in my lap as that is her favorite way to spend time with her mommy. I know this will be more than I can stand, but I promised her faithly after her stay in the hospital that I would not put her back in my car unless it was for fun. Cissy has always loved her daddy a little more than me, I was her next pick so I love it when husband is away at work and I am alone with my babies as they are all mine. I have been her primary caregiver since December 23, so she has been my baby, and daddy the next in line. If I am in another room she is looking for me. She is not attempting to walk now as she is so weak, so I find myself laying down with her just to hold her. We do that anyway, but now it is feeling her breathing and cherishing her even more. We will need your thoughts and prayers tomorrow morning, I hope I am strong enough to do this for Sandy Grace.
I hardly know what to say. :-( You have done everything you can for Cissy, and I completely agree with your decision on timing. Thank God your vet is coming to your home - not all of them can, or will, do that. Do try to remember that first and foremost, you are ending suffering. It's true that you are doing her a big favor by helping her ease gently from this horrible sickness. She will never have to be sick or vomiting or soiled ever again. You WILL have the strength to see this thing through as long as you remember that you're actually helping her. I know you're in for a long, miserable night tonight, and all of you are in my prayers for peace. Please check back in when you can.
Thank you so much for your sincere and caring words. Cissy just threw up and each time gets worse, I can tell she is so sore from throwing up. She is still accepting water and Pedialyte, but very little. She has given up now. I plan to hold her throughout the night to talk to her and tell her it is O.K. to go. My family wanted to be here to support us tomorrow morning, but you know, Cissy would not want that, she is a daddy and mama's girl so it will just be the four of us: daddy, mommy, Sandy and Charleston. I know I am doing the right thing, but it is so hard
I am so sorry for all you are going through. I know this is so hard. I had to go through a really rough death with mine a few months ago. He looked so scared until I held him then he just looked relieved and let go. It will be so good for you and your husband to be there with her tomorrow.
Reassure her and tell her how much you love her but let her know that you don't want her to hurt any more. I had Buster's favorite toy which I put in his paws then petted his head and told him how much I love him and all of the good times we've had until he was gone. You are strong enough to do this - Cissy is counting on that.
Hugs and prayers for you, your family, and Cissy tomorrow. Angles will be waiting for her.
I am so very sorry to hear of what you are all going through. How courageous of you and your husband to make this difficult decision to help Cissy over the Rainbow Bridge with all her loved ones beside her.
It is so hard. I am still tearing up to remember the beloved dogs we've said goodbye to in the past.
I will say a prayer for Cissy and your family and keep you in my thoughts. I hope that you and your family can heal together during this very difficult time.
Many hugs and good thoughts.
I am so sorry your going through this. You and your husband gave her a great life and I know she knows that too. You have done everything you could do plus more. She knows and thats why she let you know when she was ready. Just be with her and everything will be okay. It's going to be hard at first but time will heal you and your family. My prayers are with you and your family during this hard time.
Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of and praying for you all this morning. I know how awful the "countdown" is, and find myself glancing frequently at the clock today. I hope Cissy had a fairly quiet night last night too - for her sake as well as yours and your husband's. Prayers headed your way from west Houston.
I am so sorry for the pain you are feeling right now. Remember, it is because of your deepest love for your Cissy that you are able to let her go. Please know that you are doing the right thing for her, she will leave this world with dignity and will be waiting for you in the next. I am sure that she is thankful for the choice that you have made. I had to put my Tiffy down in December, and it was a very difficult time, somehow, though, we manage to make it through. God will be there with you making you strong and ready to take Cissy to a special place. Remember, she will always be alive in your heart. No one is ever truly gone when they have been truly loved. My prayers are with you.