Doggy cuddle time

[Curiousoneinpain]

My dog is almost 3 years old and sleeps in bed with me and has since he was a pup he was the runt of the litter and I believe has separation anxiety I've been seeing my boyfriend for roughly 3 months and he says absolutely not he can't do it anymore if my pup is going to sleep in the bed then he wants seperate beds I don't find this fair as my pup doesn't take up any of his room but rather either sleeps with his chest against mine with his little paw on my cheek and his nose touching my neck or down in the corner of the bed where my feet are bent towards my butt and the is nothing in the triangular area my pup was bought to fill a void after I had a miscarriage and he's like a child to me and my boyfriend has 3 kids of his own I can't make my dog sleep on the floor when he treats me better than my boyfriends kids and they get to sleep in beds....help....any suggestions am I being an overprotective mommy or do I need to stand my ground as the pup came way before the boyfriend????

[Ghilly]

Plainly put, send the guy packing!  If he's acting like this so early on in the relationship it doesn't bode well for him to be an understanding spouse later on, should you decide to get married.  Get rid of him and let him go find someone who doesn't love animals to try to control.  I know this sounds harsh but I have no tolerance for people who don't put animals on the same level of importance that I do.

Ghilly

[Curiousoneinpain]

I currently live with my parents and it's not a healthy situation and unfortunately no I am unemployed ad between them and the lawyer they are fighting with my previous employer because they used extortion to get me to sign my severance agreement so it's a mess

[CRSeaside]

Do you have a good job?  Would your folks have you   & pup as guests till you make phone calls for an apt ?
    You know I do not know the details, so I can't say if you need to rush or just go slow & think things out.  I'll say a prayer for guidance for you. Pamela

[Curiousoneinpain]

With everything going on I've considered packing what I can in my car and driving to god know where and starting over I feel like it's the only way to be happy but my friends tell me they don't think that's the healthiest choice

[CRSeaside]

Karla is so very right. I have the feeling that you are younger than I am.
I have experience with many different kinds of people. Once I explained how things were to a Dr friend of mine, & he said you'd be better off living in the casita( that's a small house on the side of the pool. )
  We are animal lovers yes. But we are people lovers too. You have the right to happiness.    Pamela

[Misfits4Me]

"he says absolutely not he can't do it anymore if my pup is going to sleep in the bed then he wants separate beds"  IS a threat!

[Curiousoneinpain]

He has never made threats however there are issues I bring up about his kids attitude and treaent towards me all the time until recently they kept telling him "to pound sand" I talked with his ex and explained how hurt he is from the treatment from the kids and now they call him daily I work towards making his life better yet I get treated like crap from his kids and their is friction between him and I because he simply says he doesn't know what to do so I actually have an appointment to look at an apartment this weekend and feel it may be best if I move out on my own from my parents where I reside and away from him and kinda do my own thing just me and my dog I may not be able to provide the best life for myself but no matter what my dog with have his food and treats and health taken care of I will live on butter bread if need be I always put my baby before me

[Misfits4Me]

Hello Curious......I have NO tolerance for men that make threats (Of any kind) to women! My suggestion is to "BAIL", now! This guy doesn't deserve you or your dog! Thrust me, the future will only get worse!  Karla

[Curiousoneinpain]

Honestly I love my dog but he is the biggest be hog ever we did buy him a bed and he refuses to sleep in it as boyfriend we are having issues I perfer not to discuss publically but welcome private messages and any advice I'm also not talking to anyone in my family including my parents so life at this moment is a mess I find myself loosing my temper with my poor dog and don't mean to I don't abuse him but sometimes I go yell at him for something as small as being right under my feet I'm just at a loss for words with anything right now and he seems to be my only glimmer of hope and is by my side 24/7 he is my angel

[CRSeaside]

Dear In pain.
     The dog sounds tender & sweet. You've had him for 3 yrs right?
     The boyfriend came with a lot of baggage, right? Your home of his?
Ask yourself who would you miss more at night? The man or the dog?
Maybe your boyfriend is bluffing. Of you could go to one of those big warehouse stores & buy a huge comfy dog bed. Dog may like it. Pamela

[MelissaLovesDogs]

Umm....   why would you even consider doing this to placate a guy who makes such demands after dating for a few months?  Eew.  You really want a long term future with a guy like that?

If your dog WAS a human kid, would you let a guy you had been dating for 3 months tell you how to interact with your kid?

Your boyfriend drew this line in the sand.  Tell him you are sorry he feels this way and wish him well in his search for a girlfriend as cold as he is.

You and your dog both deserve more consideration and compassion.