I'd like to add that there is jewlery out there that you can add your loved one's ashes to. I purchased some items from perfectmemorials.com when my dog Petie passed. I got myself a beautiful necklace and a keychain for my Dad (Petie was his little buddy also). I got both items engraved and now my Dad & I can carry Petie around with us wherever we go.
One more thing...I'm glad you asked for her ashes...That's the way I would do it, if I ever need too.
No, I'm sorry Gary...I don't have any experience with dog's ashes.
I live in the country, and I have always buried my dogs on my property.
I know that my Mother has one of her dogs ashes. She wants us to bury them with her.
When my Dad died 2 years ago, he was cremated. Mom said she felt very comforted to have Dad's ashes in the house. Dad died in the winter, and Mom had decided to have a service for him in the spring...and bury his ashes then.
But when the day came for the service, Mom did not want to get rid of Dad's ashes....She really wanted to keep them, because they were so comforting for her. My sister talked her into burying them....but for Mom, it was like losing Dad all over again.
I know it will be hard for you to pick up Abby's Ashes, but I think it will be hard for you no matter when you do it. I also think, the longer you put it off, the longer you will have to think about it.
Gary...you could post your concerns about this, as a New Question.
More forum members will see it, and I am sure others will be willing to share their experiences with you. I wish I could be of more help....My heart aches for you....I know how much you are missing her.
Connie
The vet called me today to say Abby's ashes had come in. I'm going to delay bringing them home a while as that could be a setback in my healing. Maybe I'll find I shouldn't have asked for her ashes. Any experience in keeping the ashes Connie?
Hi Gary...
Yes, " If Love could have saved her, she would have lived forever." That is a beautiful thought, and so very true. Something I have read, that helped me, was....Euthanasia is not something we do TO our dogs, it is something we do FOR them.
Abby was in your life for 15 years...what a big part of your life she shared.
My Twobits was also 15 years old, she was euthanized 1 year ago.
I sure do miss her, and I always will. Our dogs are part of our family....they really are. It sure hurts when they are gone.
I am so glad I have my others dogs....they are such a comfort for me.
Yes...the rewards of having dogs in our lives, does far outweigh any grief or guilt we feel when they are gone.
People who love dogs, should have dogs....there are so many wonderful dogs in this world who need someone just like you. Your next dog will certainly be lucky to have you.
Gary, don't hesitate to express yourself here...we are all dog lovers, and we understand and share your feelings.
So many of us have been where you are now.
Thinking of you during this difficult time....
Connie
Thank you, your kind words are reasuring that I'm experiencing normal feelings and that Abby is running free again.
Someone sent me this, "If love could have saved her she would have lived forever", so true.
I'm positive I'll have and love another Brittany for the rewards far outweigh the grief and guilt I'm feeling right now.
Gary