Are you using Internet porn? Have you been doing so for a while? We have seen an endless stream of men - some in their teens, most in their twenties, developing porn-induced ED. Doctors are completely unaware. A big no to lifestyle as a cause at your age. Maybe when you are 50, but not 25.
Here’s a Psychology Today article on it
Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunction Is A Growing Problem
GOOGLE VIDEO - erectile dysfunction and porn - watch the video series.
Check out this medhelp thread with lots of guys who have porn-induced ED. Read the stories.
You can find my first few posts if you want to know more.
First and foremost, I strongly recommend you stop smoking and taking recreational drugs. Get some exercise, too. A healthy lifestyle is the #1 ED treatment and, believe me, far more effective than any pill.
According to your post, you had a negative sexual experience in the past and the memory of that event is still preventing you from having intercourse today. This is good news actually: it seems that your condition is purely psychological (sexual performance anxiety) and psychogenic ED is easily treatable.
I suggest you do some research on this subject. Search the internet, talk to doctors, read books (I recommend the works of Tom F. Lue, a brilliant urologist). Knowledge is indeed power: the more you know about these problems, the less stressul they will be.
Then, go see a urologist. It's no shame to seek professional help. ED is an extremely common medical problem and even if this is purely psychological, a urologist will be able to help you and prescribe you the right treatment. PDE-5 inhibitors (Viagra, Cialis, Levitra) are very effective but they are not the only solution, there are other treatments available today.
My story is very similar to yours. I also suffered from coital anxiety for many years until I decided to go see a urologist. It changed my life, it really did. I'm currently taking a combination of Cialis + Vigamed (oral phentolamine) and my sex life is better than ever.
Hey,thanks very much for your post. I have watched porn regularly for years! Kicked the habit when I read you your post around a week ago. I've also decided to get some viagra (which has been prescribed). Hopefully, I'll notice an improvement. Any further advise is always welcome!
It usually takes a minimum of 8 weeks of no porn and no masturbation to fully recover. Sometiimes longer, sometimes shorter. So be patient if it takes a while. If you orgasm, or use drugs to force an erection it may slow the process down. This is not anything like age related ED. Nothing. This is your brain saying it can't do it anymore - as in weak erections.
Hopefully you have watched the video, and read the psychology today (follow the links at the this article to yourbrainonporn) article so you are mentally prepared, and truly understand the problem. Don't want you to be discouraged.