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27 year old male ED

I’m a 27 year old male 174 pounds 6’1’’ I do on average 45 min to 1 hour of cardio every day and try to stay active 7 days a week. No medical conditions. I take a multivitamin and rsp’s testosterone booster. Before you read my story I do not want to take medication if possible I really want to get this under control on my own.

About a year ago I had a sexual encounter with a lady where I couldn’t get an erection. After taking a break and calming down I was able to get an erection and have sex. We had a few more times where the same thing happened again no erection and then eventually I was able to have one. Fast forward a few months and the same thing happened but that specific time I wasn’t able to get one fully even after a break to calm down. I had one relationship after that where I had no problems whatsoever.

So finally we arrive at the present day. I’m totally convinced that I have a variocele. A large grouping a veins attached to my left testicle. I’ve had it for atleast 4 years now. Never really gave me any problems but I hope it has nothing to do with not being able to get an erection. So now where the problem has gotten bad enough where I’m writing this message. I’ve found a woman I’m very attracted too. We’ve had sex three times the first I had no problems. The second and third I had major problems getting an erection. Both of those times I was able to get one partially. I literally cannot stop thinking about not getting an erection now. It’s always on my mind. Even looking at porn or nudes doesn’t even help sometimes. I can however get strong erections sometimes but they are random. With and without a partner.

I masterbate about 3 times a day. And it’s turned into something that was fun into a weird coaching session for getting and holding an erection. I constantly worry where before I never did. I’m tired of this ruining my relationships. Please help!
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This sounds like a mental block to me.  This link is to an older post here at medhelp where a PhD specialist talks about this kind of anxiety related to erections.  Even though the stories (yours and the OP on the other thread) are different, the things that the doctor says is very helpful and may really resonate with you.  Give it a read and tell me what you think.  https://www.medhelp.org/posts/Erectile-Dysfunction/Cant-beat-the-mental-barrier-and-maintain-erection/show/1024174
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I agree with GR - sounds more psychological than physical. I don't know this for sure, but even if it turns out you do have a variocele, I don't think that would interfere with your sexual functioning. I would not necessarily characterize masturbation 3x daily as 'excessive', but you might not be doing yourself any favors with that. I think what can happen is that sex (solo or otherwise) could become a little routine, boring, etc., and you're not giving yourself time to build up the desire & urge for sex, so that could be contributing to your problem. I firmly believe that your erection problems are NOT actually ED - if you were really suffering true ED, you probably wouldn't be getting strong erections as you describe, so I think the variability is more related to your frame of mind at the time. I think you need to relax a little, put less pressure on yourself to 'perform' (TERRIBLE term, by the way...) and that will probably go a long way to getting past this. The link to the earlier post GR provided should help...
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