its actually trying to expose yourself into new things.. erection could get back to your partner if you like give it a rest for a few times and try to surprise him by doing someothing that you both havent done in your years of doing intercourse.. hope this helps..
Hi Mickey.
It's very difficult to answer your question because without hearing from your boyfriend, anything I say is just guessing--guessing about his concerns, about his feelings towards you, about his previous relationship, etc. In other words, there could be many contributing factors to his erection concerns--emotional, psychological and relationship.
I'm wondering why someone prescribed drugs for him, when clearly they're not helping. Viagra, etc. don't change feelings. They merely help with blood flow. Clearly, that's not an issue for your boyfriend. Whatever is getting in his way has nothing to do with anything physical.
So that leaves us with a laundry list of possibilities:
As men age, erections sometimes take longer, and even come and go. This is not an indication if ill health, but just part of life.
Something about being sexual with a woman is causing him anxiety. What do you suppose it is? Is it possible that he's worrying himself into this problem? In other words, once he starts to worry about erections, he can't enjoy himself, so naturally, his erections disappeared, and he created a self-fulfilling prophesy. Often, anxiety and nervousness create a situation in which men can't relax enough to feel pleasure.
Worrying about erections is a dead-end street and will make a penis very uncooperative. So what's your next step? Talk with him. How else can the two of you figure out what's going on? You need to open up a discussion and be supportive, not accusatory or angry. Tell him you want to be with him and you want him to open up to you about his feelings. Together, the two of you can decide what's the best step to take. I would also recommend the two of you read the following book about male sexual issues: “The New Male Sexuality,” by Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D., widely available both used and in paperback. This book has up-to-date information for both men and the women who love them. Best of luck to you. Dr. J