You sound like a wonderful man/husband! My post is FRUSTRATED. If you read it you'll see my husband is suffering with ED also and has for about 3 years now. However, there is a difference between you and him. He says it makes him feel "less than a man" when he can't satisfy me through intercourse (EVEN THOUGH I ASSURE HIM - I'M ALL FOR DOING OTHER THINGS, TOO) so he pulls away from doing anything sexual with me for weeks at a time. However, I see him jacking-off in the shower and can't help wonder if he likes doing that rather than having sex with me. This plays on my mind quite a bit. Just wish he was more like you in the sense of accepting who he is and enjoy spending time with his wife. I love it ALL and enjoy it thoroughly when we do have sexual contact. Just wish he would 'come around' a little more often. 35 years and still in love but desire more 'willingness' from him. Anyway, thanks for your post and for showing me that there are men out there who are willing to except things for what they are and make the best of it.
Hi,
it's great that you feel comfortable asking & talking about sex; You have a very good question; Personally, I don't think it matters what someone looks like or if they are able to have an erection; If a relationship cannot survive these things, then they are not worth your time; I am very happily married and I suffer from ED; I think it bothers me more than my wife; there is an old saying, "All that men think about is sex!"; Well, I believe thats true; We don't think about it 24 hr's a day, but it is often on our minds; even though I have ED, I still think about sex a lot; Maybe it is just the way men are programmed; I would have sex every day & even several times a day, if my wife would just go along with it; It does not disappoint me that she does not want to as much as I do; People are just different and thats OK with me; Even with ED, I very much enjoy sex & even the anticipation of having sex; I'm always telling my wife that my mind is very horny, but there's little growth & action between my legs; there are still several things a couple can do; Just use your imagination; Yes, men like to cuttle too; We may have sex on our mind while doing so, but we enjoy it; As far as I'm concerned, I'll take whatever I can get as far as being close in my relationship; I think it helps keep a couple close and intimate; As far as having sensations, Yes, I do, but they are different and s/w hard to explain; I may not get an erection, but I still have strong feelings, very strong & active thoughts, and I also have the same leakage like when I did get erections; Don't worry about things so much; You must love & respect yourself!; Otherwise, others may see you as you do yourself; I hope everything works out for you.