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ED because of Mental problems
I have been having trouble maintaining an erection when I 'penetrate' my GF. Its like as soon as its in it starts to go down. I went to the Clinic about it, and the doctor checked me out. He says there was nothing wrong with me physically, and that it was mental related. He says he will get me an appointment with a councillor, but this takes months to arrange. He advised that I start to "explore my own body" sexually as I have never really seen the big attraction to masturbating and whatever. But, when I do, its like I can't imagine anything sexual. Can't get into that frame of mind. Its up, not as hard as it used to be, but when I stop it'll go down in seconds.
I'm nearly 19, have never cauntiously ejaculated. Had wet dreams, doctor says because the wet dreams everything works down there.
Another factor, is that all through my life, I never really got attention for the right reasons from girls. Not the best looking, and always nervous and shy around them, mainly hot girls.
I'm really stressed about this. My GF has told people, and now my friends know, so I'm trying not to see them to be honest. The fact that my GF has told people makes me no longer trust her, once everythings sorted I'll probably end it because I won't be able to trust her with anything big, better just being alone.
I'm nearly 19, have never cauntiously ejaculated. Had wet dreams, doctor says because the wet dreams everything works down there.
Another factor, is that all through my life, I never really got attention for the right reasons from girls. Not the best looking, and always nervous and shy around them, mainly hot girls.
I'm really stressed about this. My GF has told people, and now my friends know, so I'm trying not to see them to be honest. The fact that my GF has told people makes me no longer trust her, once everythings sorted I'll probably end it because I won't be able to trust her with anything big, better just being alone.
I'm not an expert, but this seems like a case of sexual performance anxiety. Your doctor is right: if you are able to attain a normal erection when you are alone, then there's probably nothing organically wrong with you and this may be purely psychological.
Anxiety and depression are indeed major causes of erectile failure. These problems are extremely common, incl. among young men, but they are easily treatable. Try not to think about it too much and I'm sure things will improve with time. You may also need to find another girlfriend: a supportive partner is essential and you need someone you can trust. Finally, I suggest you try to learn as much as you can about this subject: read books, talk to experts, search the Internet. The more you know about these problems, the less stressful they will be.
I hope this helps. Good luck!
Anxiety and depression are indeed major causes of erectile failure. These problems are extremely common, incl. among young men, but they are easily treatable. Try not to think about it too much and I'm sure things will improve with time. You may also need to find another girlfriend: a supportive partner is essential and you need someone you can trust. Finally, I suggest you try to learn as much as you can about this subject: read books, talk to experts, search the Internet. The more you know about these problems, the less stressful they will be.
I hope this helps. Good luck!
I know this kind of problem (though I personally can't even penetrate to start with). It's probably a mental hang-up, at our age (I am nearly 20), and I too have had a long history of nervousness and anxiety around women (though I have always been, ahem, *interested* in masturbation). There are a couple of solutions, which basically boil down to either trying to psyche yourself into the mood (for example, trying something kinky you might be interested in, or trying to adopt a different style - like if you are normally sweet and kind, try being dominant and aggressive; or even just getting into bed with her without necessarily expecting all-out penetrative sex), or taking pills for the short-term future and hoping that this helps you overcome whatever temporary inhibitions you may be feeling, consciously or not.
You're not alone; good luck with this!
You're not alone; good luck with this!
Another thing thats quite important is I'm not even waking up with an erection anymore, and also haven't had a wet dream in months.
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