Erectile problems for teen

[nguyennnn]

Okay i am 17 years old. recently my girlfriend and i are were about to have sex for the first time, were both virgins.  As we are kissing and stuff, i get hard. And as we are about to have sex, my penis goes back to normal.  this happens throughout the time. like the hardness comes and goes. one minute i am really hard and the next i lose all hardness. this has just been recently happening too. before i am able to keep hardness the whole time when we are just fooling around. Also i have been drinking and doing ectasy in the week this has occured. i just want to know if its me or maybe im thinking too much? and if there are any serious problems with me?

and also i have been shaving the area above my penis and these red little pimples have been showing up. a few of them have whiteheads and the rest are just plain red. i wanna know what they are and if its serious. thank you.

[nguyennnn]

i would also  like to say that this has happened before i did the ectasy that week.

[Dalubaba]

Give rest to sexual activity at least for 3 months. you will not be able to stop by will power only.  Learn abdominal breathing. Google it and practice it for 10 minutes twice a day. You may use slow, deep and even (inhalation and exhalation are equal) to calm down your sexual urge. This will eventually regain your sexual vigor. Keep yourself healthy and cheerful.This will be a long term therapy. you develop patience by abdominal breathing and pick up some more breathing exercises.  Try yoga and pranayam.

[beanflickuur]

Hey im 15 and im a virgin and i've recently started getting sexually active.... and my **** cant get or stay hard.. i'll be hard when we kissing and stuff but when im about to ****.. i go soft... this is embarrassing but i think it has something to do with me masturbating... i used to do it alot... now i recently stopped because of it not getting hard... Answers would help because I think the world is going to end when it comes to these type of situations

[lionking85]

Mine was a very similar case.  The ability to perform intoxicated does, more or less, rule out physiologic issues.  Alcohol reduces all types of inhibitions, so the problem is probably an inhibitory (psychological) one.

The issue with me was relaxation; if you're good with women, often you end up thinking a lot throughout the interaction.  If you're nervous about getting hard, the cycle has already begun.  At a certain point, "getting caught in your head," that terrible feeling, can keep you tense and inhibit your behavior.

I spoke with a doctor; he gave me some pill trials and I recommend them.  There's nothing wrong with you, but you probably just need to get over the initial mindgames and relax.  When you're confident about your erection, you can relax.  Once the cycle is broken, you can drop the pills.  Depending on the situation/ how fast it's moving, I'll still jumpstart sometimes just to make sure I don't have to think about it.  

Ignoring the issue can be seriously psychologically damaging.   Go get laid.

[someguy1270]

I am a 20 year old male having some problems. Whether they be psychological or physical, I don't know. I am a college athlete: very in shape and healthy.. so I would like to rule out physical problems but one can never know. I am very good with women and typically will end up with one or another when I go out.

My real concern is that I have trouble getting/maintaining and erection when sober. My heart starts pounding, I even shake sometimes which I am guessing is just anxiety. I will get hard once we start kissing but as things progress I lose it completely. Even if I am able to stay hard I will lose it the second I open the condom wrapper or try to put it on. This is getting extremely frustrating because most of the girls I sleep with are so sexy to say the least and I don't want to hurt their feelings. It's like everything is perfect and I feel like the man until it comes time to have sex.

I'm not saying I can't have sex at all. I have been with a number of girls and had great sex but these problems are always nagging me. I guess I don't understand why I can get completely drunk and have great sex with a girl and then do it again sober in the morning... yet I can't get it up when it's just me and another girl sober. I'm starting to feel like I have to be drunk to lose the anxiety.

I know many people will say sex should not be a casual, one night kind of thing... but at this point in my life right now that is what I want. I'm going to stop masturbating or watching porn to see if that helps. I will let you all know.. but please someone give me advice. I hope at least one of you has been in the same situation. Thank you.

[baconholdman]

Hi. Me and my girlfriend are both virgins and we decided we were ready for sex about a month ago. She did not want to begin with oral sex/hand jobs but rather just vaginal sex. I have had major anxiety about sex and really want it but get extremely nervous right as it is about to happen. Once, I was hard up until all of our clothes were off. I freaked out, lost focus, and lost the erection. Recently, I maintained a semi hard erection after we were naked but i had trouble inserting my penis into her vagina. I eventually just lost the erection and it was terribly embarrassing.

I am wondering if i need to finger her first (she has never had any sort of penetration) in order to be able to fit my penis in? Or could I possibly just have had trouble because I was not hard enough?  Any suggestions on how to relax and get very hard?

I am really freaking out so anything will help!

[Laneybug404]

This happened to me and my boyfriend too. Foreplay is great so oral sex and hand stuff are good for making the whole experience better. It will help you relax and help prepare her. Stress will kill your boner like nobody's business, so just go slow ;)

[bird109]

Hi there,
Advice needed! I am a mum & have found in my 17 yr old sons drawer some Cialis & some doctors literature on ED! I obviously had no idea!
I am so pleased that he has seeked help for this but do I try to talk to him about this or do I not, as I don't want to embarrass him,but I am now worried about him!!
He has had a steady girlfriend for over a year!!

[8744321]

I am 17 and am a virgin and my situation seems to be the most similar to beenthere3000. Last week i was on holiday and i met a girl in a bar, we got quite drunk and before i knew it i was back in her hotel room. I am quite self- conscientious about my penis size and sex is such a big deal for me. I have never had it before so i was both nervous and excited. I was hard right up until i put on the condom and then my erection just disappeared. Although she was very nice about it, i was mortified. I couldn't believe i had done that in front of a girl. I was angry at my self and confused to why that would happen. We ended up just kissing for a bit and then going home. I spent the next day angry at my self trying to understand why that would happen and if it would again, i told some close friends (boys) who said erectile disfunction happens to everyone and its normal to happen once.

I then saw her two nights later, she didn't mind at all, she put it behind her and acted like it had never happened. However i am a very anxious person, and i panic very easily. When i met her the second time after some drinks once again we headed back to her hotel room and all i could think about what not being able to get it up, we got into the room, kissed for a bit and she kept asking if i was ready and all this pressure and my anxiety meant whenever i went to put the condom on, my erection would disappear. I would get random erections and feel like i was ready then 'boom' it would disappear so quickly. We spent all night trying in between breaks of kissing or talking. It was embarrassing and in the end i stayed in the hotel room and all we did was kiss. The whole way through she was understanding and nice about it however i couldn't stop panicking and working myself into a state.

My fear now is that i develop an anxiety that will mean every time i try and have sex i will think about this, panic and not be able to get it up. From reading all the responses and help here the most popular advice seems to find some way to get comfortable with a girl and relax and this will help you back into it. 'beenthere3000' suggested getting a prostitute in a hotel room i don't think this is the best solution however i was wandering if anyone thought using Viagra next time i have sex would be something that would take the worry of my mind and help me get over my anxiety? If anyone has any other suggestions i would be very grateful to hear them.

[mac93]

hi im 15 and a virgin i am experiencing similar symptoms to wayneskips but it has more to do with masturbation and like wayneskip i frequently masterbate and up to about a week ago i have been able to get rock hard throbbers but now there still erect but much softer is there any serious problems i should be looking for and i appreicate the help thanks

[metropolis]

«I know some will not agree with this method but dude i lived it and wish i took this route. then when your ready call back all the escorts you couldnt f##k and F##k them»

:) Not the wisest thing ever posted here, but you do have a point: once you get more relaxed and used to sex, things will improve.

[beenthere3000]

I had this problem as a teen (19) but it was not a physical problem it was a mental problem.  i would get so worked up about sex that instead of being horny I would panic (and im a dude go figure i felt like such a ***** with my **** being all shriveled and receded cuz of the anxiousness). anyways after 4 months of trying almost DAILY i finally got relaxed one day and finally got laid and been screwing ever since.   Not to mention how embarrassing it is to me that theres a girl out there that probably tells this story frequently to friends and boyfriends (4 months of this ******** guys maybe even 6 i cant remember to clearly but it did take me a while).  anyways the girl fell in love with me but i dumped her after a year of tearing the ***** up because i wanted more women i was not gonna go down as a one girl type of guy (now im like at about 50 something women in like 8 years) not bragging but just to emphasize how ridiculous i would react when i first took the plunge).  My advice if you are like i used to be (scared to perform, thinking what if she figures i dont know what im doing, highly anxious) rent a room and get an escort that doesn't know you, do this as many times as it takes till you get used to fu#####g, she wont care if u dont perform all she wants is the money and will soon forget you, just say you were doing cocaine earlier and thats why u cant get hard "give me like fifteen minutes and play with my d##k again" and just conversate meanwhile to relax.  Pick different fine ones with a big *** and good **** to help out, keep thinking wow im doing it with a complete stranger doesn't matter what happens. AND WEAR PROTECTION AND USE KY JELLY with nonoxyl 9 AND YOU SHOULD BE FINE. I know some will not agree with this method but dude i lived it and wish i took this route. then when your ready call back all the escorts you couldnt f##k and F##k them.

[metropolis]

«Are there any natural spices or anything recommended to increase circulation if that's the issue?
Please stop telling us teenagers to go see a doctor. WE'RE TEENAGERS.»

Two things:

a) Natural antioxidants (vitamin E, pycnogenol, pomegranate juice) improve blood circulation and can do wonders for your sex life.

b) Teenagers can/should go see a doctor, just like anyone else.

[Wayneskips]

I'm 17 and I no longer have anxiety performance or anything like that. I'm pretty used to sex by now. But when I'm about to enter my girlfriend's vagina, I get a little limp and not hard enough to penetrate and other times, just about hard enough, but again not rock hard. When I'm already inside of her, I slowly start to lose my erection.  I have always used a condom. I don't smoke or drink. I'm very physically fit (play soccer 2 hours a day), and very very healthy. I'm always in the mood for sex and always use a condom.  Yet I don't even get morning erections anymore. I also eat very healthy, and make sure zinc is in my diet.
I masturbate quite a lot (2 times a day, minimum). If i ever stopped doing it, i would ejaculate 30 seconds into sex, and that would be whole different problem itself.
Are there any natural spices or anything recommended to increase circulation if that's the issue?
Please stop telling us teenagers to go see a doctor. WE'RE TEENAGERS. Most of us need our parent's consent. Where should i go to seek help? Dont tell me i should wait to have sex either cause if  don't tackle this problem now, its gonna get worse when I'm an adult. I'm not gonna take viagra either. First of all, I'm 17!!! Where the heck am i gonna find some?  Second, I  don't want to depend on it, its really expensive. I thought sex was supposed to be one of nature's free gifts?

I just want my rock hard erections back, when I masturbate and have sex.

[bob732]

i got the same problem i ddint but me n my ex ****** alot every day of the week n i smoke ciggs that the problem?

[metropolis]

Guys, you are all young and healthy, so there's very little to worry about. Anxiety is probably the cause of your problems, and if so, I'm sure things will improve with time. If the situation persists, don't be ashamed to go see a doctor (urologist). Meanwhile, I suggest you take valerian pills before sex: valerian root is not an ED treatment but it is a mild sedative and could be helpful in cases of sexual performance anxiety.

[j7653]

I am 41.  I grew up with the problems that you all have described.  The erectile dysfunction started with my first experiences and never really got better until I was in my early 20's.  I had many opportunities to be with women and had many bad experiences which left me very angry and resentful.

Please do yourself a favor... get some help so that it doesnt follow you thru life as it did me.  It caused me a great deal of problems, depression, and negative experiences that you dont have to go thru.

If I could wind back the clock, I would get to a psychiatrist for help and get my hands on some viagra or cialis or levetra.

Please consider what I have said very seriously.

[jimbojemi]

Hi, Im 19 and I have recently found it difficult to get a solid erection. I have only had sex once. Erm. Well ive now got another Girl friend and im worried im gonna have trouble. I eat healthy, drink very little, and no drugs or smoking. Im thinking its just my nerves because of the new GF, but I was thinking the other day about when I was younger and could get a really solid (throbber lol) erection, and I havent had one like that for months. I dont know what is going on.

Any advice much appreciated.

[3cento86]

@bc88
@canadaguy89

pretty much similar problem here...anyone found something that REALLY work??!

[canadaguy89]

I am 17 years old and often suffer from erectile dysfunction also. I am not a virgin. I've been wih 4 different girls. and this has been an ongoing problem with all four. I don't know what to try anymore. I can't stay hard.. and if I can.. I can't last long enough.. any suggestions?

[bc88]

i am a 20 year old kid and jsut recently i have gotten  a new girlfriend and when we are about to  have sex im not ready anymore. before sex and whenever im not with her i can get it up, but just when im with her i cant. how can i fix this???

[donny6]

hey  

im still 16 and still a virgin, but recently have been having oral sex and either i wont ejaculate and once my penis didnt get hard even as it was happening.  this is embarising and uncomfortable.  Is there anything wrong with me. should i go to the doctors

[ryanslough22]

Hi i am an 18 year old and have been having trouble getting an erection for over a year and a half. i can only keep an erection for a very short time during masturbation and when i am about to have sexual intercourse. This is making me really depressed and i've stopped even talking to girls or trying to find a girlfriend.

[JointHealth]

Performance anxiety...  Try a soft rubber cockring to help maintain the erection until your performance anxiety subsides

[DerekH]

One of the things that causes it a lot for anyone is stress.  Whether you're thinking about it too much or you're going through tests or problems at work stress can cause fluctuations.  Also the drugs can do it too, particularly ecstasy. Try having sex sober, it will help you a lot.  Also, in terms of shaving, you're probably irritating the skin by shaving too close.  Are you using any kind of shaving cream or gel or just shaving with or without water?  It's probably best just to use a trimmer to get close, but not all the way down.  You don't need to worry that much about it looking perfect, you're not a porn star, as much as you may think or want to be.