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Erection Troubles
So I'm only 18 years old and have been concerned with my problem for about a year. When I get an erection it does not stay for a very long time at all unless it is being constantly stimulated. When stimulation is taken away my erection goes away almost instantaneously. I asked my doctor and he said it was most likely anxiety but I have realized my erection angle is very low and I have to work to keep an erection...is that normal. What I mean by this is that I have to flex my PC muscle to get my erection to have an angle and once it is not flexed it falls to almost straight down at about 5 o'clock. My erections were always forced downwards when i would get them throughout the day and such. Could this have damaged my suspensory ligament??? Is there a repair for this??? PLEASE HELP!!!
i have extreme libido during night...........wht should i do.......i m very weak......
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hello.
Yup. Anxiety will do it every time. And ignorance about penises makes you even more anxious.
You are trying to force your penis into some angle that you've determined is not "normal." And your penis is not happy about it.
Some penises are completely straight, some curve up or down, and some curve to one side or the other. All of these are simply physical variations—like the difference in peoples’ noses. The only time to be concerned is if your penis curves so extremely that it’s difficult to be sexual with a partner. If this is true for you, you should see a urologist for diagnosis and treatment.
However, it doesn't sound like your penis curvature is extreme, so please stop trying to make it fit into some pre-conceived model.
About penile stimulation: As you get older, you'll discover that you need more stimulation. This is not an indication of ill health, etc., but merely another variation. Some men need light stimulation, while others need a firm hand, so to speak :)
Erections go up and down. You’ll find this happening all your life. It doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy sex, but you have to adjust your attitude and relax. I suspect that once your penis didn’t respond on command, you started feeling anxious and judging yourself, which can be a vicious circle. The more you worry about erections, the more your penis won’t cooperate. In fact, it can be downright rebellious!
Many men feel that if their erection goes down even a tiny bit, there’s something wrong with them. Where does this come from?
Men receive so many messages that sex is about “performance” and pleasing a partner, rather than just enjoying the pleasure of it. Everything is goal-oriented—like a football game. The other message that many men receive is that sex is somehow dirty and wrong, unless you’re doing it for reproductive purposes. Sometimes this can creep into our unconscious thoughts and sabotage any pleasure. Ask yourself whether you have any conflicts about being sexual—any old messages that might be lurking in your subconscious.
For more information about erection issues, attitude, etc., I highly recommend the book “The New Male Sexuality” by Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D. It’s widely available in paperback and is an invaluable resource.
Relax, stop putting pressure on yourself and enjoy sex for what it is: pleasure. Give yourself permission to enjoy whatever happens—and find partners who aren’t hung up on performances issues either. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
Yup. Anxiety will do it every time. And ignorance about penises makes you even more anxious.
You are trying to force your penis into some angle that you've determined is not "normal." And your penis is not happy about it.
Some penises are completely straight, some curve up or down, and some curve to one side or the other. All of these are simply physical variations—like the difference in peoples’ noses. The only time to be concerned is if your penis curves so extremely that it’s difficult to be sexual with a partner. If this is true for you, you should see a urologist for diagnosis and treatment.
However, it doesn't sound like your penis curvature is extreme, so please stop trying to make it fit into some pre-conceived model.
About penile stimulation: As you get older, you'll discover that you need more stimulation. This is not an indication of ill health, etc., but merely another variation. Some men need light stimulation, while others need a firm hand, so to speak :)
Erections go up and down. You’ll find this happening all your life. It doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy sex, but you have to adjust your attitude and relax. I suspect that once your penis didn’t respond on command, you started feeling anxious and judging yourself, which can be a vicious circle. The more you worry about erections, the more your penis won’t cooperate. In fact, it can be downright rebellious!
Many men feel that if their erection goes down even a tiny bit, there’s something wrong with them. Where does this come from?
Men receive so many messages that sex is about “performance” and pleasing a partner, rather than just enjoying the pleasure of it. Everything is goal-oriented—like a football game. The other message that many men receive is that sex is somehow dirty and wrong, unless you’re doing it for reproductive purposes. Sometimes this can creep into our unconscious thoughts and sabotage any pleasure. Ask yourself whether you have any conflicts about being sexual—any old messages that might be lurking in your subconscious.
For more information about erection issues, attitude, etc., I highly recommend the book “The New Male Sexuality” by Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D. It’s widely available in paperback and is an invaluable resource.
Relax, stop putting pressure on yourself and enjoy sex for what it is: pleasure. Give yourself permission to enjoy whatever happens—and find partners who aren’t hung up on performances issues either. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
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