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I ask why does my penis continue to fail during that special moment?.
It continues to happen on a daily basis during sex. The middle of and BAM!! I get soft. She does EVERYTHING right. From motion to affectionate passion. Myself? Fail big time. Clearly I'm the problem.
Ya know, this is so common - just look at the number of similar questions on this site. As guys, we are always trying to 'prove' ourselves in one way or another. We love to compete - who can run the fastest, lift the most in the gym, drive the golf ball the farthest, etc., and of course when we hear other guys bragging about their sexual conquests, we feel an urgent need to beat the other guy, or at least keep up. Competition may be great to get the best out of us on the athletic field, but I think for many of us, it's actually damaging in the bedroom. Some guys put so much pressure on themselves to 'perform' that all the pleasure of sex is gone. I'm guessing you have no issues getting hard when alone, right? If that's case, then you know your equipt is not the problem. I think the key is to stop trying to impress the girl or other guys, just relax & let it happen, don't try to force it. I think it's better to go a little slower in the beginning - tell her you really like her, would like to spend the night together, but not necessarily go for 'full sex' (intercourse) right away. Instead, enjoy each other's bodies & please each other using our hands, mouth, whatever. There are many ways to get each other off, and anyway, most women don't orgasm from intercourse, they need manual or oral stimulation, so if you can please her that way, I don't think she'll mind if you didn't go all the way, at least early on. Then once you've been together a couple times & pleased each other, deliberately holding back on intercourse, you'll both be more relaxed & the urge will be even stronger. And ya know what? I think a lot of girls would actually appreciate this approach - you won't come off as a guy who's just interested in getting yourself off, she'll look at you as caring guy who likes pleasing her as well. Try it, it might help...
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