Welcome to your 20’s! When you're younger and just beginning to be sexual with others, erections pop up everywhere--including when you don't want them! Post-pubescent men are highly exciteable. After all, sex with a partner is new, and anything new is terribly exciting. Of course, you need direct touch and stimulation! Most men find that once they leave their teens, they need more direct and intense stimulation. This is just part of life and doesn’t indicate any underlying condition to worry about.
As you age, you'll find that erections sometimes take longer, and even come and go. Again, this is not an indication if ill health, but just part of life. Sexual interest ebbs and flows as well, depending on other circumstances in your life. And you hit the nail right on the head: the more stress you’re under, the less energy your body has to respond sexually.
Worrying about erections is a dead-end street. All it will do is make you anxious, which will make your penis very uncooperative. And remember you don't need an erection to be sexual, have fun, experience pleasure, etc. Relax, enjoy your own unique sexuality and stop judging yourself. Dr. J
I’m assuming when you use the term “sex drive” that you’re referring to your interest in sex and/or your desire for sex. I can't tell you WHY your interest or desire has waned; that's something only you know.
As I said above, you can expect your feelings to fluctuate during your life. If you relax and stop worrying, they'll probably return. If you put some performance expectation on yourself, you'll probably never live up to it, so why make yourself miserable?
There are lots of factors that can contribute to lowered desire, including stress, anxiety, relationship difficulties, etc. You might find it helpful to examine these areas of your life to see if anything has changed lately. Dr. J
ok thank your for your response doctor. I still feel like my sex drive is very low and that I dont have much interest in sex most of the time compared to a few months ago when all I could think about was sex. I also dont have much interest in pornography anymore. like i said i had my testosterone levels checked and everything is normal. I noticed when i wake up in the middle of the night that i still get erections but they are not as hard as before and go away quickly as i wake up so i guess physically everything is fine. what can i do to increase my sex drive?
Sorry I forgot to add that it is harder to keep an erection when I am laying on my back and standing and it is easier when I am facing downward. Thank you.