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Medical advice on managing ED

Hi. I recently started dating a 62 year old man. We have known each other for years. (we are both doctors in Venezuela – Urology is waaay out of my field). In summary, besides the fact we are now dating, he is someone I deeply care for and have done so for some time.

The first time we had “sex”, or tried to, I found out he had erectile dysfunction. Apparently he has had it for a couple of years and has tried many therapies. PDE5 inhibitors don´t work. He has visited an urologist. They diagnosed a penile venous leakage. According to him, the only alternative the urologist offers now is surgery (penile implant). Option that scares him and that he has discarded a tad. He is able to reach a little erection with tadalafil, but really not much. Not enough for penetration and surely not enough for his own satisfaction.

All of this has been really frustrating and disconcerting for me. I have many questions and disquiets.

I guess I really don’t care that he is unable to have an erection. I can explore sex in other ways and can experience pleasure without penetration. My main concern is HIS OWN PLEASURE. Is he still aroused despite his problem? I mean, does he still feel the same sex drive? Does he feel any pleasure at all?? Is there any way possible for him to feel an orgasm again? Anything I can do or explore? Any other medical alternative (not surgery)?

I know the first step is having this conversation with him. But I am still in a bit of shock and desperate for a medical point of view before I sit down and have the chat. I want to know the alternatives and possible scenarios.

Thank you in advance for your response.




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Hi Terry
Look what is below is my way out of ED and I'm now in recovery, the beauty is this is there is no drugs just some hormons and herbs, all I can ask is please give it a read, and for a coupkle of months give it a try.
Good luck

What is below is a reply I put in to a discussion on side effects to ED drugs, so I’m now putting So if he drugs don’t work or work well but with bad side effects, then go the herbal way, and it works, but you need to go the whole way with them and give them a good try, just like drugs its a mix and match affair to find the right mix.
Now for I'm in ED recovery and if like me you can get the mix right it will also give you a healthier life style thrown in as a side effect, so that cant be bad can it.
OK for I was given Viagra here in Greece when a was told all that I had was anxiety, its great when your told that, without any examination, and then given Viagra without any tests of any kind, all this I found out later of line, and after this decided that I then needed to find my own way out of ED if I could, the one thing if you start looking is DHEA comes up a lot of the time, so did research into it and asked on a couple of forums for info, for or against.
So I'm now on DHEA 75mgs a day, this is something you really need to read up about if you think its for you and start low to see how it sits with you,
Now and have just started to take Tribulus, this now backs up my DHEA, I'm now taken Tribulus 2 x 750mgs a day, its a bit like DHEA gives your testrone and libido a boost, but with no side effects, not that I've had any from DHEA, these I take for 5 days then rest for 2.
I also take Garlic chopped up fine with olive oil and parsley, and do a whole head at a time, I also take Cayenne, this I put into tomato paste and mix it smooth with olive oil, both of these I rotate alternate days then change them round the next week and only take for 5 days then 2 days rest, These you need to wash down with water before meals.
I also have Ginger in lemon and honey tea, I fine grate Ginger from the freezer. grate to the size of a large egg put in cup with lemon and micro wave30 secs then add your tea, Green or Black, tastes great,( on pegym they call this erection tea ) Green tea is also a help with ED, Green tea, Cayenne and garlic are all known herbs for cleaning the blood and given heat down below they all help open the veins up, and to help get blood into the penis, and believe me you will fill this some time later, I also have some herb Tribulus which I brew with green tea, and drink with ginger honey and lemon, I read that honey and lemon is good for the blood.
On pegym they have what they call the 5Gs it’s all herbal and well worth a look at, just Google the 5Gs, it will take you straight there.
There are lots of other things you can try, Borax see earthclinic for this under ED, Glycine, Nutmeg, but watch this one they say it could be a mind bender,D-Apartate at 3 grams, Ginseng, Ginko Biloba and zinc, but the list is endless.
There does not seem to be many side effects to most herbs, I did get some high blood pressure from Viagra but now since being on mostly herbs I feel and get some real good hardons, and the morning woods are good, I even get woken in the night with some real boners and never had that before.
Look I do hope this may help with some of you guys out there who think that the doctor is the only place to get help, I do some answering on medhelp and webmd the doctor on webmd does not like me given people advice on herbs, but he forgets that all modern drugs come from herbs in the first place, and a lot of new drugs have there roots in herbs, and druggists are still researching roots, herbs and flowers to find new drugs.
Good Luck We Need IT
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Lots of the above can be Googled by just adding ED on the end of them, Cayenne can give lots of support to the prostate, also by mixing things with olive oil boosts your omega intake, and by taken to spoonfuls of olive oil a day gives you even a bigger boost of omega.
My DHEA I take 50 mgs first thing in the morning, this I got from a web site on dosage of DHEA, this is because the body’s own DHEA is at its highest then, and so what we take can help boost it.
Yes and don’t forget your vitamin D, just get yourself out in the sun and you can pack your body with it, its free that way, they say you only need 15 minutes a day to get enough of it , me I’m out in it all day long here in Greece, and most of the time naked.
And the last thing I got my wife a **** ring for Xmas, it’s a Hardwear Ice made of glass and works really well, once you get used to wearing it, and can give you some fantastic boners that are really strong.
if intrested just google hardwear ice.
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Hi Terry, OK if you go to franktalk, on there you find a man who is doing great things with bicycle inner tubes for his problem, and it works, OK I know this sounds funny, but wait till he trys it and then the next morning you can come back and thank me.
Good Luck
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