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My husband cannot maintain an errection
I'm at a complete loss. The first night I (tried) to have sex with my (now) husband he could not get an errection. We have been together almost 10 years and have battled this issue together. Sometimes he can get an errection but can't maintain it. Sometimes he gets an errection but comes very quickly. Sometimes he can't get one at all. For years I pretended it didn't bother me (but inside I think its me, maybe I don't excited him). Ive dealt with issues with him not getting enough sleep. I've asked him to eat better with me. I've encouraged excercise. I've made him multiple appointments. One doctor said it was peyronie's disease because there is some twisting. Then there was blood in his ejaucation for years. We had that checked and they said "its gross" we arent going to do anything about blood in the semen, nothing can be done. What???? I don't care that it's "gross" I worry about his health!!!! I've tried sending him some sexy photo's, being spontaneous. I'm at a loss. I've been kind understanding and patient forever. I know this is not his fault. I know this. But, I can't have no sexual satisfaction for the rest of my life. we are only in our mid thirties. (we tried Viagra once, epic fail). Everything else in the relationship is there. We are happy, until in comes to sex. I don't even want to try anymore, I've lost complete interest. But I dont show him that. Any ideas? I was thinking some kind of intamacy retreat or something. I don't know.
If what you're saying is true, that may be the cause of my ED. I have always watched lots of porn and masturbated to it throughout my youth and adult life. I was always great in bed until I wasn't. I'd say when I was in my mid to late thirties. I remember having really good sexual with my, then, new girlfriend and that was the last time I had sex with no issues. I haven't really been able to experience a solid, lasting erection since, even when watching porn. I wander if this can be reversed?
its rather odd the doctor dismiss his penis issues so readily. i would be extremely concerned if there was blood in semen. he can have an infection in his reproductive organs.
The thing you have not concieved of is, he watching porn and masturbating alot, once you masturbate and watch porn for years, it can cause ED issues, try to find out if he does.
The thing you have not concieved of is, he watching porn and masturbating alot, once you masturbate and watch porn for years, it can cause ED issues, try to find out if he does.
Get this stuff called rhino 51. It's all natural, you can order it online, I had wood for over 2 hours. He'll feel the effects after around 20 minutes. He'll be able to smash diamonds with his penis!
Read a book, entitled '100 days Practice to better health , good ses, and long life.It is based on Taoist yoga.and Chi Kung. Author is DR. Eric Steven yudelove. You may find few chapters in Amazon.com. If you find introductory chapters interesting you may do the exercises suggested. This will help you both to rich your goals.
Rose5685's suggestion is very practice If you wan't you may add some exercises to enhance sexual stamina..As he is cooperative and amenable to your suggestion , you may try this exercise.I am naming then so that you can get detaills from Google.
Kegell exercise
Male and female dear exercise.
Breathing exercises Breath together, breath alternatively and do circular breathing.
You may do external anal peripheral prostate massage, . Second massage is abdominal prostate massage.dildo, exercises, medicines will be multiprocessor treatment.
Just cuddling can be a good energizing exercise.Do not intend to do intercourse you goal should be to pass time by cuddling each other.By and by you may change other heavier sexual activity.This all should be done without guilt. Manu a time just embracing for a long time can generate enjoyable feeling..
Kegell exercise
Male and female dear exercise.
Breathing exercises Breath together, breath alternatively and do circular breathing.
You may do external anal peripheral prostate massage, . Second massage is abdominal prostate massage.dildo, exercises, medicines will be multiprocessor treatment.
Just cuddling can be a good energizing exercise.Do not intend to do intercourse you goal should be to pass time by cuddling each other.By and by you may change other heavier sexual activity.This all should be done without guilt. Manu a time just embracing for a long time can generate enjoyable feeling..
I had a radical protectomy almost 3 years ago I have tried everything from viagra to vacuum pumps and even penile injections my last resort is a strap on pens all the ones I have seen are ridiculously large from sex shops can anybody recommend a life like penis of normal size
5 mg seems low. I'd go for 10 or even 20 as a kick start. But that is up to his doctor and how much pounding his heart can take ( cialis makes your heart beat hard and fast, which is a little disconcerting).
Anyway..... Don't worry about his climaxing quickly. Just make him do it as much as possible during the week. Within a few weeks his penis will, tho still erect, become desensitized and he will last longer. That is when you will start to get your pleasure. He needs to be trained in the act of sex. Lots and lots of it, until it gets good. And do not accept ANY excuse about " I'm not in the mood". He will experience sex fatigue at first almost to the point of disgust but you must insist he keep performing. I had ED and my GF put me through a rigorous sex routine. Ten minutes after I climaxed she'd want me to go again ( oral stimulation is necessary here) . Some days I'd have sex five times and, trust me, by the 5th I was sooooooo not in the mood but I did it anyway. My ED is a thing of the past now. I don't even use cialis anymore. My penis has been trained and responds instantly to her touch. We are back to a normal routine of once a day, or every two days now.
Anyway..... Don't worry about his climaxing quickly. Just make him do it as much as possible during the week. Within a few weeks his penis will, tho still erect, become desensitized and he will last longer. That is when you will start to get your pleasure. He needs to be trained in the act of sex. Lots and lots of it, until it gets good. And do not accept ANY excuse about " I'm not in the mood". He will experience sex fatigue at first almost to the point of disgust but you must insist he keep performing. I had ED and my GF put me through a rigorous sex routine. Ten minutes after I climaxed she'd want me to go again ( oral stimulation is necessary here) . Some days I'd have sex five times and, trust me, by the 5th I was sooooooo not in the mood but I did it anyway. My ED is a thing of the past now. I don't even use cialis anymore. My penis has been trained and responds instantly to her touch. We are back to a normal routine of once a day, or every two days now.
I developed this problem after many years of mutually satisfying sex and after awhile my wife started looking to find a lover. This woke me up and we solved this problem and my wife did not have to find a lover. The answer is a two step one. STEP #1. buy your husband a soft pliable Doc Johnson strap-on 5 inch dildo ( the vaculock ones ). The penis mounts onto the attachment on the strap. It will not hurt you as it is extremely soft and pliable like the real thing. For the first one only order a 5 inch one. Do NOT order one that is longer. Leave a longer one or a rigid one to later if necessary. Also order plenty of KY. No matter how wet you get use plenty of the KY. Make sure he knows to go side to side as well as in and out and force him to conform to your rhythm. From the first time you should enjoy some great orgasms. It should be pleasurable to your husband also by the up / down and making you happy. Be sure to be in charge and make him follow your instructions. If he cannot do it find a lover.
#2. STEP #2. You need to work with his urologist and try the various ED meds. i.e. After you have had a session where your husband gives you two orgasms spend some time testing the ED Meds on your husband for several minutes before or after each dildo session. Chances of a successful outcome after maybe 10 to 30 attempts ( always after your two orgasms and only for a few minutes ) are high. You can then set aside the dildo for emergency use.
Start your testing with Levitra. The normal dose is 20 but if your husbands urologist approves start with up to 80. Test in the morning only allowing your husband one dry toast and one cup of coffee / tea. Fat intake like butter will probably kill any chances of success. Wait two hours. Then give your husband lots of caresses and kisses. Wear lipstick. The kissing should give him a rock hard erection. If not LET IT GO. Do not let him try to penetrate you with a semi soft penis. This will only make you sore and is a waste of time. Experiment with up to 80 dose if approved by urologist and up to 3 hours and also try reduced down to one hour. If not successful try another ED med. It is different for everybody.
I am 76 and have and give my wife better sex than when I was a lot younger using the Levitra. It works! But you must force your husband to bring you to orgasm each test session with the dildo! Do not try the meds on your husband without the dildo use in the same session! Our dildo has not been used for a year! No need!
Good luck!
Roe5685.
#2. STEP #2. You need to work with his urologist and try the various ED meds. i.e. After you have had a session where your husband gives you two orgasms spend some time testing the ED Meds on your husband for several minutes before or after each dildo session. Chances of a successful outcome after maybe 10 to 30 attempts ( always after your two orgasms and only for a few minutes ) are high. You can then set aside the dildo for emergency use.
Start your testing with Levitra. The normal dose is 20 but if your husbands urologist approves start with up to 80. Test in the morning only allowing your husband one dry toast and one cup of coffee / tea. Fat intake like butter will probably kill any chances of success. Wait two hours. Then give your husband lots of caresses and kisses. Wear lipstick. The kissing should give him a rock hard erection. If not LET IT GO. Do not let him try to penetrate you with a semi soft penis. This will only make you sore and is a waste of time. Experiment with up to 80 dose if approved by urologist and up to 3 hours and also try reduced down to one hour. If not successful try another ED med. It is different for everybody.
I am 76 and have and give my wife better sex than when I was a lot younger using the Levitra. It works! But you must force your husband to bring you to orgasm each test session with the dildo! Do not try the meds on your husband without the dildo use in the same session! Our dildo has not been used for a year! No need!
Good luck!
Roe5685.
I've ben having the same exact problem with my husband. Sometimes it takes us and hour or 2 just to finish. He doesnt want to stop till he get climax but he always get soft so we have to get it erect again and it cost us more time. Sometimes it makes me think whether I am the problem. Did he lost his interest in me? By the way, I'll be lucky if he'd want to do it 2 times a week. Its just sad.
nope no diseases. He drinks maybe one or two beer a month. He is in good over all health. We are having his testosterone checked. Then they gave us cialis 5mg a day for him to take. Id rather figure out what is wrong before we start drugging him.The last two nights we were about to have intercourse but it was extrememly fast. He was so affraid to go limp he just wanted to prove he could finish. Happy for him, very unsatisfying for me. I never let him see I was feeling that way. I smiled and hugged and kissed him. I realize this is not his fault. I can't imagine going through this if it were me, I'm ashamed that my mind now takes me else where, Imagining great sex with someone (no I have not every cheated). Just thoughts. I just its my way of coping.
He is very interested. Always willing, always telling me how pretty I am. I know the want is there. He said he worries about performance and that compounds the problem. I've been so patient and I am now feeling impatient. you can love somebody and some times its just too much. Without the sexual part of the relationship we might as well be friends. I'm tired of years of this.
Testosterone level test is important , it should be checked also ..
But we are talking about medical issues , what about his feelings towards you , is he interested doing sex with you ?.is he stressed ? , i mean anything not medically related ,.
But we are talking about medical issues , what about his feelings towards you , is he interested doing sex with you ?.is he stressed ? , i mean anything not medically related ,.
Yes we did get that checked because his mom had type 2 diabetes. His blood work came back normal. He does have high cholestorol. We are working on that. His prostate was checked and its good. He's been to a Uro surgeon 2 times. I cant remember if his testosterone levels were ever checked, he is balding so I wondered if that indicates anything?
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