My name is Jake, and im 20 years old. I need to know what is wrong with me. From birth until I was 18, I had not one erection problem. I got a girlfriend senior year of high school, and could not get an erection with her for the first 4 months, with even Cialis and Viagra sometimes not working. After about 5 months, the issues went away and I am hard anytime in her presence and am working on all cylinders. We've been off and on the past months, and I have starting seeing another girl, who when I am hanging out with and doing sexual things leading up to sex, I cannot get hard in the least bit. Even with taking Cialis prior, my penis is just dead. Long story short, I don't know where to turn and im praying you guys could give me some answers. Here is a little more details and back story on the problem:
- I have gained 15 lbs of muscle over the past year, so low testosterone is not the issue (Also have had medical tests done which came back 100% normal)
-I have a strict workout schedule and a well balanced diet (drink only water, no junk food at all)
-I have not gotten consistent morning wood for about 2 years now
-I frequently watch porn and have for the last year
-My libido is at an all time low, rarely ever being horny
-My flaccid penis seems to more times than not be shriveled and smaller than normal
-Although I could not get hard with the other girls, anytime I see or am with my ex, I am immediately hard and ready to go, which leads me to believe my issues aren't physical or due to porn
Now also, me and this girl have had a very tumultuous relationship. Constant fighting, anger, the whole nine, we basically stayed together because the physical attraction is so strong. Now since my penis works fine EVERY time I am with her, that leads me to believe it is not a physical problem or due to porn, because if so it would be ALL the time, not just with someone but her. What im thinking in my uneducated opinion is that it could be a few things:
-Mental (Although I doubt it because why would my flaccid penis be smaller, as well as morning wood go away and libido lowering?)
-Too much use of porn (The "NoFap" movement is very popular, but I am hesitant to try because again, if this was the case I wouldn't be able to get hard with my ex)
-Stress from the relationship (We fought constantly and im not 110% over her, so maybe im so comfortable with her that its hurting me with others? But again, why the loss of morning wood and libido?)
Ive seen doctors, talked to my friends, and I am at my wits end. If anyone reading this has any idea, hunch, feeling, anything at all about a possible solution, I sincerely can use your help more than ever.
Thanks so much everyone. Heres to hoping I get some answers.