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I have a very serious problem.. Ever since I was 16 when I became sexually active I have had troubles getting an erection.. I would want to have sex, but for the life of me I could not reach an erection when needed... It was very frustrating as a kid and led to some serious depression and thoughts of suicide.. Fast forward to today, I am almost 30 years old and I am not only taking Viagra to reach and maintain an erection, but I also have this other sensitivity issue where if I masterbate 48 hours before sexual intercourse, I cannot reach orgasm, even when using Viagra, I just don't feel anything down there, and forget about multiple orgasms at the time, the second round just feels like skin on rubber... For me to be able to have a pleasant sexual experience, I have to take certain steps, ie: Cannot masterbate for at least 48 hours before, and must consume Viagra at least 20 mins before... Please note that I not only take Viagra to reach an erection, but I was having serious problems while wearing a condom where I would not be getting enough sensation, and the condom would fall off due to the penis getting softer, which in some cases lead to unprotected sex..
Is there anything I can do to alleviate this issue.. I know it is complicated, but any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.. God bless.
Is there anything I can do to alleviate this issue.. I know it is complicated, but any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.. God bless.
I'm not a doctor in anyway, but would like to add my 2 cents. One of the best things you can do for your body/libido/mind is to get around 20 minutes of aerobic type exercise per day, and decrease your fat intake, and increase your vegies and fruits. You will have less libido/erection troubles within about a month or less.
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I’m not clear on exactly WHAT issue you’re referring to, so I will answer some general questions about erection and sensation.
You’ve discovered what many men have found, and that’s that Viagra isn’t the only answer. Now that you’re taking it, you may be aware that there’s something else going on that a pill can’t change.
Welcome to your 30’s. When you're younger and just beginning to be sexual with others, erections pop up everywhere--including when you don't want them! Post-pubescent men are highly excitable. Of course, you need direct touch and stimulation! Most men find that once they leave their teens, they need more direct and intense stimulation. As you age, you'll find that erections sometimes take longer, and even come and go. Again, this is not an indication if ill health, but just part of life. Sexual interest ebbs and flows as well, depending on other circumstances in your life.
Viagra doesn’t create sexual interest or enhance sensation; it merely increases blood flow to your penis. If you have an organic condition which affects blood flow, then Viagra can, indeed alleviate this concern. However, if you’re conflicted about sex, or uninterested, or some other psychological or emotional concern is preventing you from being turned on, all the pills in the world can’t help that. And the more stress you’re under, the less energy your body has to respond sexually. Two other reasons why you might not be having erections are that you’re bored with your current partner or the sexual activities you’re doing together, or that there are some conflicts in the relationship and you’re feeling anxious or angry. Something is getting in the way of your enjoyment, and it’s your job to find out what it is.
Regarding condoms: many men find that they don’t receive enough stimulation when using certain brands. Try using thinner ones. A good way to find out which work best for you is to buy several and try them out during self-pleasuring.
It’s also important to remember that if you’re having erections at other times besides with a partner (e.g., morning erections), chances are there aren’t any physical causes and there’s something psychological contributing to your concern. If so, a good first step would be to explore what’s going on. Start by reading a book about male sexuality to discover what other men are sharing about their feelings. I recommend “the New Male Sexuality” by Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D. If you aren’t getting morning erections, you might want to consult a urologist to find out what’s going on physically. Best of luck. Dr. J
You’ve discovered what many men have found, and that’s that Viagra isn’t the only answer. Now that you’re taking it, you may be aware that there’s something else going on that a pill can’t change.
Welcome to your 30’s. When you're younger and just beginning to be sexual with others, erections pop up everywhere--including when you don't want them! Post-pubescent men are highly excitable. Of course, you need direct touch and stimulation! Most men find that once they leave their teens, they need more direct and intense stimulation. As you age, you'll find that erections sometimes take longer, and even come and go. Again, this is not an indication if ill health, but just part of life. Sexual interest ebbs and flows as well, depending on other circumstances in your life.
Viagra doesn’t create sexual interest or enhance sensation; it merely increases blood flow to your penis. If you have an organic condition which affects blood flow, then Viagra can, indeed alleviate this concern. However, if you’re conflicted about sex, or uninterested, or some other psychological or emotional concern is preventing you from being turned on, all the pills in the world can’t help that. And the more stress you’re under, the less energy your body has to respond sexually. Two other reasons why you might not be having erections are that you’re bored with your current partner or the sexual activities you’re doing together, or that there are some conflicts in the relationship and you’re feeling anxious or angry. Something is getting in the way of your enjoyment, and it’s your job to find out what it is.
Regarding condoms: many men find that they don’t receive enough stimulation when using certain brands. Try using thinner ones. A good way to find out which work best for you is to buy several and try them out during self-pleasuring.
It’s also important to remember that if you’re having erections at other times besides with a partner (e.g., morning erections), chances are there aren’t any physical causes and there’s something psychological contributing to your concern. If so, a good first step would be to explore what’s going on. Start by reading a book about male sexuality to discover what other men are sharing about their feelings. I recommend “the New Male Sexuality” by Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D. If you aren’t getting morning erections, you might want to consult a urologist to find out what’s going on physically. Best of luck. Dr. J
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