Hi,
I have the same problem as you. I'm 44, diabetic and bp problems as well. I've been declining in that area for a long time, also. I'm not able to have intercouse with my g/f either because of this. I'm able to make her orgasm other ways, but she hasn't been able to make me yet. I tried viagra & cialis a few times, and they helped some, but not what i was hoping for. Maybe they will be what you need. I'm not sure what else to do also. If you find something that works please share it with me.
Good Luch
i guess it comes really to aging....why not try some Ginseng