sex partner 19 yo than me

[augleo53]

I've been with my partner for 16 years. He is 19 yo than me. He is in his 70's and as each year goes by is becoming more and more dysfunctional. His penis size has shrunken due to his inability to achieve a stiff erection. he gets erections, but they are not stiff. Viagara, Cialis, Levitra, implants, etc.. are out of the question for him, and he is so egotistical, defensive, and argumentative everytime I attempt to discuss the subject.

I don't know what to do. I really want to kick him to the curb and find a younger sex partner who can satisfy me, but instead, like an idiot, I still have feelings for Mr. Dysfunctional and continue to try and have sex even though it ends up being a left sided missionary hip mashing session with some vaginal finger action.

Experimenting with toys or using a penile pump or trying a different position is out of the question. The man is close minded to these options. What else is out there to try?

Please Help!!

[jr_inmex]

not into taking drugs of any kind, for anything?  or just this situation, due to pride?  Can he still run as fast now as he could in his 30's or 40's ? lift the same amount of weight?  certainly not.  Things change, trying to negate the inevitable decline as long as possible (if one wants to) using all the tools possible is the best way to go.  Occasional Viagra use will not make him go blind - if he's getting erections, just not super hard ones, then taking only 10mg might be enough to make up the difference.  

[augleo53]

I am sure people have sex well past the age of 70, at least I certainly hope to up until I push up daisys. An open relationship is out of the question and experimenting with others is not my thing anymore especially since the advent of AIDS, incurable STDs, herpes and men on the down low. Either we find other workable options or we walk away.

Thanks for your response.

[augleo53]

Thanks for your response. I have asked the question, he is not into taking drugs of any kind, and is afraid of an implant damaging his body.  He is convinced that viagara will make him go blind.

We are talking about a man who is very active, goes to the gym every day, has no illness, and is in better health than most people in their 50's. He looks like he is in his early 60's.

He has stated that his urologist believes it is psychological, because he can get an erection, it just isn't a stiff erection. I personally believe that he is in denial that he is growing older and the plumbing will never work like it did when he was in his 50's and 60's.

I was hoping there was something else other than drugs and sugical implants, alas I just may have to kick him to the curb!

[AmbassadorofAwesome69]

Well, I think you may have to accept the fact that you're with a guy in his 70's and that stuff just doesn't happen anymore!  LOL!  However, is he willing to have an "open relationship" where you can experiment with others?  Just curious . . .

[jr_inmex]

That's really unusual, most guys embrace Viagra when they know what it can do for them.   You've explained the situation well, I don't know what questions to ask - except why would he not *want* to satisfy you and have much more fun himself ? That goes against basic human/animal psychology - seeking pleasure.  You two had sex in his 50's and 60's - now he doesn't want to make an effort?  I guess you have to ask him "why don't you want to have sex like we did 20 years ago?"  with Viagra it is possible.   If he's worried it won't work, I hear ads on the radio for The Boston Medical Group.