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I can't believe it... what's going on???
I just got a phone call from my sister. She said she just took a hpt and got a positive. She's only 19 and has only been dating this guy for a month and a half. WHAT is going ON?!?!?!?!? My bro had his first child when he was 18 - he dropped out of school to work and get married. Now my sis is pg, just started school - hasn't even been with the guy that long! So my two siblings are having children when they don't want them (at that particular time)- and me, who wants them more than anything CAN'T!!!! I don't even know what to think right now. I talked to her - I let her know that it's going to be okay - and she actually seems happy about it - but I have such mixed feelings right now!! What is wrong with me?? Am I not ever going to have children, was I meant to not have any? I've been doing so good keeping my spirits up - but, wow. Okay... deep breath... hey, I'm going to be an aunt again!! Okay - it's starting to sink in. She hasn't told my parents yet. Sorry for venting ladies - I just needed to tell someone, and obviously she hasn't really told anyone yet - so I don't want to say anything. Wow...
You are handling this MUCH better than I would. It WILL happen for you too...just do your best to stay positive.
I know how you feel....my siblings (both my niece and nephew born and raised out of wedlock) were royal f' ups to....know just kidding. But I know what you mean about the child coming to those who aren't ready.
My sil is expecting...she's like 17 weeks....her bf is on and off about wanting the baby or her for that matter...and here her brother and I are struggling to add to our family....
But I know I'm blessed with my daughter and if she is it then so be it...I need to accept it. I think I'm almost there....excepting she is my only child.
I'm sorry...some days are rougher than others....but yes you are going to be an aunt and it sounds like to a baby that may need you much more than you realize. I helped my brother raise his son for the first 7 yrs of his life....his momma split when he was 6 mos old.....Maybe that is what GOD has planned for now....helping your sis...or maybe you'll get your BFP and you both can experience this first time momma thing together.....
this would be your first right?
My sil is expecting...she's like 17 weeks....her bf is on and off about wanting the baby or her for that matter...and here her brother and I are struggling to add to our family....
But I know I'm blessed with my daughter and if she is it then so be it...I need to accept it. I think I'm almost there....excepting she is my only child.
I'm sorry...some days are rougher than others....but yes you are going to be an aunt and it sounds like to a baby that may need you much more than you realize. I helped my brother raise his son for the first 7 yrs of his life....his momma split when he was 6 mos old.....Maybe that is what GOD has planned for now....helping your sis...or maybe you'll get your BFP and you both can experience this first time momma thing together.....
this would be your first right?
awww i really know how u feel, was in a similar situation too!! dont worry, i am sure u will conceive soon!! my mom always tries to console me by saying the BEST comes in the last!! :) her way to telling me to be patience.
dont worry, and ur handling so well, i would have been in a mess!!! loads of sticky babydust on u!!!!!
dont worry, and ur handling so well, i would have been in a mess!!! loads of sticky babydust on u!!!!!
It is so hard to see everyone around you getting pregnant without trying. I want this more than anything, am supposedly at the prime age in my life, and we have to TRY. It seems like everyone I know got pregnant the first time they tried and it's just so frustrating. I know life isn't always fair, but it can just be so cruel sometimes.
it seems like everyone around you is getting pregnant when there is nothing you want more. You have to realize you are NOT alone. You have my heartfelt empathy. I am not a religous person but my dad told me once that God does not give you a cross you can not bear and I believe that. Hang in there. It will happen for you.
Thank you for your encouraging words - I really needed them! :)
deanne: you have such a good way of looking at things! Yes, I think it's too big of a coincidence for this to just happen right now. God must have all this in his plans. Oh - wouldn't it be wonderful if I did get a BFP this month or next month?? It would be so much fun to be preggo together. And yes, that would be our first. I was pg twice, but miscarried both in the past year and a half. I know you have been through a lot too - I am still keeping you in my prayers - I hope that you can give your daughter a sibling soon!
deanne: you have such a good way of looking at things! Yes, I think it's too big of a coincidence for this to just happen right now. God must have all this in his plans. Oh - wouldn't it be wonderful if I did get a BFP this month or next month?? It would be so much fun to be preggo together. And yes, that would be our first. I was pg twice, but miscarried both in the past year and a half. I know you have been through a lot too - I am still keeping you in my prayers - I hope that you can give your daughter a sibling soon!
If there is one thing that I love about this site more than anything, it's the fact that I have learned I am definitely not alone in this. You ladies are all so wonderful! There are times where I feel like I am though - and some times are definitely harder than others, but there are so many of us going through this. Thank you ladies, for being there to share your stories, and listen to me vent! :)
Girl I know it's almost like there is a dark cloud over you. My cousin who is 31 this year recently announced her good news she however tried for a while and it finally has happened for her. You know what I think at times when you know you will be the perfect mommy the ones that don't want kids never even thought about having them or the ones that get pregnant. Not be mean but it's people like that who get pregnant on OOPs and not because there child was conceived out of love. Don't give up just imagine the day that you will be able to call her up and say I'M Pregnant!!!!!!
I can't wait until I get to do that!! :)
The one thing that bothers me more than anything is that she wasn't taking any bc. I mean, did she think that she was exempt from the getting pregnant factor?? She says she is in love with this guy and she even said she wanted to marry him a few weeks ago - but they've only been dating for a month and a half. I hope, for her sake and the baby, that they are meant for each other and it will all work out. Otherwise, this situation will be just like my bro's - custody battles. Ugh.. at least she has known him for a very long time, but still....
The one thing that bothers me more than anything is that she wasn't taking any bc. I mean, did she think that she was exempt from the getting pregnant factor?? She says she is in love with this guy and she even said she wanted to marry him a few weeks ago - but they've only been dating for a month and a half. I hope, for her sake and the baby, that they are meant for each other and it will all work out. Otherwise, this situation will be just like my bro's - custody battles. Ugh.. at least she has known him for a very long time, but still....
I know right are both of them happy? All of my friends have kids and not just one I'm talking 2 and more I just want one in my life for now and if more come then I'm ok with it but to be honest they have more baby daddy drama. I look at them and want to be in there shoes as for as being a mom but at the same time they look at me and want to me in mine. They tell me that I don't need any kids and to leave them were there at but I knew I wanted them even more when I started just admiring not only babies but toddlers. It's going to happen for us and soon baby dust all over you!!!!
That's so true! At least I am not in her shoes... I don't know how her bf feels - well, actually I don't think she was going to tell him until tonite. I guess we don't have it sooo bad - at least when we do get preggo, we will have everything else (well, most everything :) situated the way we want it. Here's tons of baby dust to you too!!
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