IUI/IVF move on to donor's eggs

Question

I am 44yrs and never had a child. I tried for years to find a mate, but it never happened. I finally got the message that I was going to be a single-mom, but maybe it's too late to be one. My FSH level on day 3 was 7.7, but with a chomid test it read 19 on day 10 and my E2 is 13. I went to two RE's to find out my best options. The 1st RE siad that I my eggs were no good and I would have to use donor eggs at 24,000/per cycle. The other one said that we should try an IUI at $1500 first with my eggs before moving on to donors. A 3rd RE who don't have a cuff-age for IVF told me to come in to see what they can do with those poor numbers. My questions is should I paid for another IUI that may not work and save my money for donor eggs. If I use donor eggs, should I pay for the service only (one cycle) only and use the frozen emboyos if the 1st try fails, or a shared-risk package for 4-6 cycles. How many cyles one my age needs to achieve her goal.

This discussion is related to Fertility options at age 45.

SHP · Answer

I am 40.  The company that my RE uses will not let you go with the shared risk plan if you are 39 or over.  I am dealing with trying to decide if I should use a donor egg or not myself.  I have had 2 failed IVF cycles.  My husband would like for the child to be at least his or I would go with the donor embryos. 

My concern is that we go with a donor and she might only produce a few eggs.  I am hoping that if we spend the 19K for donor - that we would have several embryos left over for maybe a sibling one day - or at least several tries.

mysty2001 · Answer

try donor embryos
I too am single and 42
it is less tha 3 thousand per cycle - and you will be doing something good for others (saving babies that other parents have discarded!)

I have went through my local doctor (they only get about 20 sets of donor embryos a year)
and also through a place in new jersey called cooper center (they get tons and tons - I had bunches to choose from and picked seven and am preggo with twins)
or adopt the embryos on line (I also registered at embryos alove)

I like cooper center best because the choice is huge - and really what you save you can afford to travel to new jersey for 3 days for a transfer

hope this helps

bny807 · Answer

hello!   sorry to hear that your going through this!  As far as donor eggs or not, I think that thats a very personal choice so its hard to say what to do as far as that goes.. FSH of 7.7 is good!! not sure why it was so much more elevated the next time?  I have not personally gone through IVF yet, but we are starting the process... I hear that the shared risk is a good way to go, and I personally like that idea.. they say that at any age you should plan on having three cycles of IVF for optimum results... Either way I hope that you are able to hold your baby in your arms soon! :) GOOD LUCK! and keep us udpated! : )