Saying goodbye and closing a chapter

[SueGre]

Hi All,

Just wanted to share...

This weekend was a big one for us. It all started with an email with a picture of a friend's new baby and I completely lost it. We agreed that I wasn't letting go of my pain and not willing to say goodbye to our lost baby and cat (she died 3 weeks to the day after the baby). That I was doing "wishful thinking" and not able to close the page on this chapter and become unstuck. So, we talked it out, I cried really really hard and begged my DH through a flood of tears to tell me how. He said I just had to want to and to be ready. He said I needed to just let it go so I/we can move on. So we decided to have a little ceremony. We lit a candle and Rob took out 3 ultrasound photos from our 18 week visit and a picture of our cat. We placed them by the candle and said we loved them, they were a part of us, that we would always love them and would never forget them, that it was time to move on and say goodbye. It was sad and beautiful and I can't tell you how much better I feel. I feel differently now when I see babies. I don't feel such a heavy burden any more. My heart feels lighter and I feel more relaxed. And we decided to take this month off and get back to it in March.

~Sue

[SueGre]

Thank you to all of you for your kind words. We are doing very well after having our little ceremony and I genuinely feel so much better. As I said before we are taking off this month and will start back in March. We got pg last year in March and would be funny if it happened again! A baby for Christmas maybe!

Hugs,

Sue

[desparado]

I am so inspired by your story. You are both so brave and have such love for each other.  
I too look forward to moving on. I know time is the master. Thanks for sharing and know that my thoughts and prayers is with you and your husband.
Lots of ((HUGS))

[mommyluv02]

Its a great thing that you have done. It takes a strong woman to move on from something this heartbreaking, and your husband is a wonderful man. you both deserve to have a beautiful family and you will soon. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Keep us posted
Hugs,
Amanda

[miky72]

Dear Sue,

I think you went through a very important thing this weekend.
I think about you a lot and I wish you all the best things.
Keep us posted,
lots of hugs,
Miky

[miky72]

Dear Sue,

I think you went through a very important thing this weekend.
I think about you a lot and I wish you all the best things.
Keep us posted,
lots of hugs,
Miky

[jjsh44]

As sad as your situation is, you wrote that so beautifully. Thank god for our wonderful husbands sometimes, they surprisingly know just what to say when we feel we are really going to go off the deep end. You are right, your baby and your cat will ALWAYS be a part of you-and who knows, you may one day see them again!  You just proved how strong you really are by "letting go" like you did-not all the way because their energy will always be with you and that is a good thing. I hope you find some comfort in knowing you are going to try again and I hope you find a way to relax with your husband when taking this time off. Remember we are always here for you!
All my love.

[grammy64]

I think sometimes you have to let people guide your way and help you.  It is lovely it was your DH.  

I am glad you are finding some peace.  Sometimes time heals, and sometimes it does not and you need more than that.  Sounds like maybe you found it.  

You know I think of you often and wish you the best,
Please keep us posted as we all care,
You have my heat,
Hugs,
Lori