I had 4 miscarriages started at age 36 which I never thought would be too late to have just one baby. Longest was 14 weeks. It was a chromosomal normal embryo so I tried again. The others were all bad. Did IVF and all normal embies died and one bad embryo survived. I did genetic testing on all of them. Then got preg naturally and that baby died at 8 weeks and it was what they called a mosaic. Different parts of it had different problems. Disaster really. I think the DHEA got me that far with that last one. Turns out my bloodtype might be a factor. O blood was linked to higher FSH and premature ovarian failure. Also I had read that the eggs are not bad to start the have a protein/mechanism which helps the eggs to split when fertilized. If that split is off then you get the chromosomal abnormalities. If you know for sure it is a chromosomal problem move on. But it sounds like you are not ready. I would look for a research study that you qualify for to save $$ or do the refund IVF so you have $$ to try donor if one more round does not work. Good luck we have all been there :)
That's a hard question to answer. I can't really tell you what to do but I can tell you that, I used donor eggs and I wish I had used them sooner I had twin boys in May of last year. I love them very much and the best decision I ever made. Follow your heart :-)
I'm here to tell you, having used a donor egg, it is still your child in every way. You bear it, you have mitochondrial DNA transfer, signals from your body tell the embryo to turn things on or off. After you get the positive, and even before, it's your baby. Don't worry about that aspect. Pick a donor who could plausibly look like your cousin or sister, and nobody will ever wonder and even your family that knows the story won't think twice about it. Good luck!
Hey Babyhope,
It's sad to hear you sound so beaten. You will know when it is either time to move on to plan B or to try again with your own eggs. Your FSH doesn't sound too bad. Was that under the clomid challenge test or au-naturel? I am praying for you whatever you decide to do. We are all here to support one another and we will all achieve our families one way or another. Best wishes to you and hugs too.
Hi Tones,
You are really courageous to go through 7 IVF rounds. my results were so bad from 1 that I opted not to do any more with my own eggs. I was curious about your comment tho regarding different results each cycle. Is that for real? None of my embies lived past 2 days and my RE was pretty shocked. My FSH wasn't too bad under the clomid challenge (13.73), but nonetheless there wasn't even one lonely embie to transfer. It is hard to let go and move on to donor eggs. I still wonder if I could give myself another chance. But, alas, this is all out of pocket, so I just have to get over it and move on. I am really happy for you, it sounds like you nabbed a good one, finally after all your perseverance. Keep us all posted. I am cheering for you!
Thank you both. I have got a follow-up on 2/27, got to see what my RE has to say, will keep you posted.
If you "can't take it one more time," then by all means explore donor eggs, especially if the problem is poor egg quality. Otherwise, as tones says, you still have some time.
just wanted to let you know that I have had 7 rounds of ivf ..with 3 pregnancies and subsequent miscarriages then finally a pregnancy that has gone passed 12 weeks now .. if you feel like you can carry on then I would say do it .. you are not that old (I am now 41) and every round can bring different results .. you just have to persevere as hard as that is