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Surrogacy? Need info

My husband and I just lost our 4th baby this week and I'm starting to think about surrogacy but know nothing at all about it. Hoping someone here can fill me in!

I think the only way we would do it would be if a family member would be our surrogate.  How much would that cost if the surrogate didn't ask for anything besides the medical aspects.  Does it cost as much as IVF?

ANy info would be great! please feel free to message me!!!
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961574 tn?1505958942
Unfortunately, Surrogacy is expensive.  Total it is probably upwards of 40,000 or more.  You have to "compensate" the surrogant, pay their insurance, all the meds/doctors/hospital fees. Not to mention laywer fees.  I do know if you have a family member or friend who is willing, it is cheaper... but, if it's the only way to complete you family, I 100% believe it would be worth the cost.  I totally hate infertility.  It just makes me sick!!!  I often say, I could see how an unstable person might be tempted to steal a baby... it is just such a long, and frustrating road.
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415867 tn?1323369103
its just smething i was tossing around in my head, the only way i would do it would be with a family member or close friend....not sure how much cheaper it would be ???? any idea?
i've read that if the surrogate doesn't want compensation other than the medical pills they recieve its a lot cheaper....

anyone have experience?
anything will help!
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134578 tn?1517087675
Are you looking for a surrogate who would do it with her own eggs?  Or one who would carry your embryo?  The latter is more expensive, obviously, because it means you would need to do IVF to get the embryo to transfer to the surrogate.  If you want one who will use her own eggs, that is a lot to ask of a family member.  They could feel they are giving up "their" baby (which, biologically, they are) to you.  
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415867 tn?1323369103
no it would be our embryo. we can get pregnant but i can't seem to carry the baby :(
has anyone been through this before? how do you start?
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You'd have to do it through the RE, since it will require IVF for you even if someone else is the recipient of the transfer.  Talk to them, they will know the protocol (referrals about the legals, insurance, medical testing, and all).  The recipient needs to know that she will also have to take intramuscular progesterone shots every day if she gets pregnant, for about twelve weeks, on most IVF protocols, so she won't lose the baby.  She really needs full information up front, which the RE's office can give her.
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Hello dear! I'm so sorry for your losses. There are probably no words I can say to sooth your pain. I don't know what you are going through. But my best friend had a miscarriage recently. She lost her baby on 7th month. I was 24/7 with her almost a month after. My heart was about to tear apart when I was looking at her. But time heals all wounds. She feels better now. I hope you will feel better soon as well. You should keep going and fighting for your future! Nothing can stop you if you want to be a mother. I wish you to be strong! This group helped me a lot. I'm sure here you'll find support you need.
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