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IVF using a Surrogate
I turned 46 today and my husband and I have an appointment Oct 1st to start IVF. We have a family member that has generously offered to be a surrogate for us. My question is...we want to use my eggs and his sperm to hopefully create a child that is our biological child. I have had the preliminary testing and ultrasounds and my Dr. said that if I were his wife, he would be very optimistic. Has anyone had success at my age using their eggs and transferring the embryo to a surrogate?
You are correct, I don't have a uterus. We want to try this option first and if it's not successful after a couple of tries then we will abandon the dream. My husband and I have been married for 4 yrs., but we dated all through-out high school and were also married to one another when we were 18. We were too young and divorced soon after and went our separate ways. 25 yrs later, we find one another and realized we still were very much in love and we want to try and have a child together. Wish us luck and thank you. :-)
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hi!
Happy Birthday!
43 is the "new 35". MOST women don't have much success with IVF after 43. That is just facts. Even if their ovaries produce eggs, they are not normal--they have chromosomal abnormalities the result in an abnormal embryo and usually a miscarriage.
Now, having said that, there is a lot of variability in nature. Some women are infertile at 35. I took care of a woman who had her first "accident" at 51 and her second "accident" at 52. So, it is worth a try. One option that you should give serious consideration to is PGD or pre-implantation genetic diagnosis. This assures that only normal embryos are transferred to the surrogate. There are risks and benefits, though, and it should be carefully thought out. I wonder why, if you want to use your own ovaries, you don't want to use your own uterus? There is no reason a healthy 46 year-old woman can't carry a pregnancy--I delivered triplets at 45! Unless, of course you no longer have your uterus.
I would advise ( disregard if you please!) NOT spending thousands of dollars and years of precious time using your own eggs, if you don't have success within 1-2 cycles give some consideration to donor eggs too (your surrogate?). Once you hold the baby in your arms, you will care very very little about his/her DNA!
Good luck!
Dr B
Happy Birthday!
43 is the "new 35". MOST women don't have much success with IVF after 43. That is just facts. Even if their ovaries produce eggs, they are not normal--they have chromosomal abnormalities the result in an abnormal embryo and usually a miscarriage.
Now, having said that, there is a lot of variability in nature. Some women are infertile at 35. I took care of a woman who had her first "accident" at 51 and her second "accident" at 52. So, it is worth a try. One option that you should give serious consideration to is PGD or pre-implantation genetic diagnosis. This assures that only normal embryos are transferred to the surrogate. There are risks and benefits, though, and it should be carefully thought out. I wonder why, if you want to use your own ovaries, you don't want to use your own uterus? There is no reason a healthy 46 year-old woman can't carry a pregnancy--I delivered triplets at 45! Unless, of course you no longer have your uterus.
I would advise ( disregard if you please!) NOT spending thousands of dollars and years of precious time using your own eggs, if you don't have success within 1-2 cycles give some consideration to donor eggs too (your surrogate?). Once you hold the baby in your arms, you will care very very little about his/her DNA!
Good luck!
Dr B
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