Another MISCARRIAGE

[Kat0513]

I found out at 16 weeks on 4/24 that our little had stopped growing and died around 11 weeks.  And now today the same thing happened, I went in for a 10 week u/s and found that our little on stopped growing, but this time at 7 weeks.  I’m totally heartbroken and don’t know what to do.  Why does this keep happening?  Am I just not capable of carrying a baby?  
My doctors on vacation this week and we have decided to pass this one naturally.  I’ve had two DNC’s this year and don’t want to have to deal with another.  I hear that passing them naturally is extremely painful, and I’m really scared.  Next week we will ask my doctor if we can have a panel of tests done to see what is going on, but the nurse said that they typically don’t do this until you have 3 miscarriages.  Is that typically true?

[SLB123]

sorry, I forgot to say that my dr. also said that they really don't do any testing until after the 3rd one as well. so I still don't have a reason for mine either. it's so frustrating because if there is something we could "fix", I'd hate to go through another m/c if I really could have avoided it. by the way, I am from WI also...are you anywhere near Wausau?

[ashort]

I'm so sorry to hear your sad news....I had a m/c in June at 7 weeks.  I decided to have a D and C..well my ob didn't really give me a choice.  I have a VERY good piece of advice for you...you do what makes you feel comfortable meaning...insist on the blood work.  Since I only had one m/c I got the usual speech.."it's common and we don't test unless you have multiple m/c's".  After pondering for a bit I decided that wasn't good enough for me.  I went to see an RE and he ran a full panel of blood work and you know what it probably would've happened again to me b/c I am compound heterozygous MTHFR (blood clotting disorder).  I can honestly say that I think my RE was shocked to find this.  The thing is now I know I'm taking extra vitamins and a baby aspirin a day.  You never know...if you want your blood tested insist.  You may or may not find out something.  For me it gave me closure and a reason...good luck to you and again I'm sorry for your losses....

[HOPING4AMIRACLE]

i am soo sorry for your lost. my prayers are with you. i know how difficult it can be. keep your head up!

melissa

[Kat0513]

Thanks ladies for all your stories and comments.  I'm excited to finally get some answers and if my doctor decides she would rather I wait until I have 3 m/c's before she wants to test, than I will be off to see a new doctor.  It sounds like this blood clotting disorder is pretty common.  I will keep you all posted.  Thanks again!  I'm doing my best to keep my head up and stay strong.  

Kat

[Kat0513]

I currently live in Fond du Lac, but will be moving to possibly Appleton in the next year.  

[SLB123]

ok, my aunt lives in Appleton. just thought I'd ask thinking maybe we were near eachother and could compare dr. notes. oh well. good luck to you and let us know what happens!