ERPC?? Pill??? or Natural?? What should I do?

[Oddbod]

Hi there,
I went for a scan yesterday and was told the baby's heartbeat had stopped and that I hadn't grown since the prior week when the heartbeat was slower than normal & I was also measuring very behind for dates. I should have been 10 weeks pregnant but I started bleeding 2 days after the positive test and then every scan I had indicated I was going to miscarry. It has been a horrendous 10 weeks. I have now been given the option of an ERPC or a pill to get rid of baby etc. The nurse (if I can call her that) was about as sympathetic as somebody laughing in your face singing "you have lost your baby". She never once said "sorry". She just asked had I thought what I wanted to do...ie how to get rid of baby. She said the ERPC had a lot of risks as "they are going in blind and can sometimes rupture the uterus or bowel so you then need another operation". Hmm not tempting then and the other option of the pill sounds equally awful. I am hoping for the natural method as this did happen last time nearly 2 weeks later. She did not mention that option but it was in the lovely booklet she gave to me.
Has anybody had any of these??? What were they like for you?? All advice and experience very much appreciated.

[mlward3]

I am so sorry!!! My heart aches for you:( You are in my prayers!

[Oddbod]

Thanks so much for your help & advice. I am still hoping my body will deal with it naturally. I lost a baby in May at about 8 weeks which took 2 weeks to miscarry so I am trying not to panic yet. I am worried about the ERPC/D&C as I do not react well to anaesthetic and would prob have to stay in overnight. That would mean leaving my 7 yr old Son also who I am squashing & squeezing & thanking God I have been blessed with him. I had also read about scarring which worries me as it may cause more problems in the long run. I am so desperate to have another baby. I can see the plus side of it all being over with. I really want that now. I have been constantly worried for 10 weeks that I was going to miscarry...now I know the baby has died I just want it over with. I did not like the sound of the tablet thing as again would mean being in hospital and it sounded too much like you were aborting it. Stupid, I know, coz it is already dead. Aaaghh!!! the pressure. I have spent the last few weeks praying not to bleed. Now I am praying to start bleeding.

[zsezse13]

hi.. 1st i would like to apologize for the rude nurse..they should really take sensitivity classes.. i'm VERY SORRY that ur going through this right now. it is very devestating i know. i don't know if u already went to the dr's or not and made a decision, but i personally would try and leave nature to take its course. i had a miscarriage in september, but i was only 5 or 6 weeks prego. nature took it's course with me. i had minor contractions and then the next day i passed the baby when i went to the bathroom. it was traumatic more so because i saw what looked like a sac hanging out of me due to being stuck! (sorry i know that was kindof gross) even tho it doesnt sound like something u want to go through, from my understanding the benefits in the long run are better. i read somewhere that too many d&c's or in ur case erpc's are not good for u and could eventually leave scar tissue. maybe i'm incorrect so please don't mark my words.
either way i send u a hug! and again i'm so sorry u had to go through this especially now around the holidays.. please try and keep ur head up and look foward to the next attempt u make to complete ur dream!!!! take care

[mlward3]

I looked up what erpc was and it is basically the same thing as a d&c it seems! I like yourself had minimal spotting was suppose yo be 11 wks went in for ultrasound no heart neat baby had died around 8 weeks:( I am so sorry for what you are going through! I was fortunate enough to have excellent drs and nurses! Once I found out it had been dead for 2 weeks And I still had not passed it I new my decision immediately! They gave me the option to let nature take its course and go home or d/c!!! I wanted out then and there! I could not stand the thought of having to go home And sit and wait knowing what was in me and what I would go through emotionally if I had to do it at home:( I did the d&c they knocked me out with Good drugs And I woke up and It was done, just a little cramping and bleeding for a few days! Doing the d&c ensures everything's out usually your hcg level drops back off immediately mine did. Passing it naturaly some women don't pass it all and still need A d&c. That's what worked best for me I wouldn't change my decision for nothing! Praying for your health and emotional healing!