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My husband & I are doing IVF. We had 3 embryos transf last thurs. I can't stand this waiting. How long before I will know if I am pregnant?
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Retrieval went as planned. 8 eggs, 3 fertilized. Day 3 transfer was scheduled. 2 hours into our 3 hr drive to the clinic they called and said none of the embryos cleaved so not to bother coming. Has to be the greatest disappointment of my life. At least our 1st ivf attempt we had 4 embr to transfer. The doctor had zero explanation. I don't know what to do now. Our sperm and eggs are "normal" yet nothing. Can those of you who have had success please advise what clinics you have used. I am in Buffalo, New York but willing to travel. I feel like giving up but how am I supposed to accept a life without children?
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I am praying for you and hope everything goes great and you  get a bfp. Hang in there it will happen. Good luck and baby dust  
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Well ladies, here I am back ttc. I have been doing my shots and it looks like retrieval is scheduled for 10/25. I have fewer follicles this time and so who knows. I am trying to have a good, positive attitude but it's so hard. Meanwhile, everyone is America is having a baby! I am literally ready to lose it. If this ivf attempt doesn't work I have no idea what to do. We have spent a small fortune and have been through so much the past 7 yrs, I don't know if I can keep trying but I want a family. It's a brutal situation. I just hope and pray it works this time. To all of you ttc I am praying for you all.
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1725396 tn?1315660351
I'm new to this site but read some of the post and I wanted to tell you Not to Give up on this if it is your Dream to have a family. I am in the same boat as you we have been trying for 7 1/2 yrs to get Preggo and have been using Fert. Dr. for 3 of them. I have gotten preggo a few times on my own but lost them. We do know why now and I'm taking meds for the problem but have Not been able to get Preggo since the last preg. 3 yrs. ago.

I'm on my 5th attempt at IVF and have just done a FET on Sept. 6th and I'm hoping for a BFP!! We have 2 embryos left but I think this is it for us but I know so many people who gave up and now regret it Keep the Faith and Keep trying I know MORE People it has worked for than NOT!! I will be saying lots of prayers for you!
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mhv
Sounds like your vaca was absolutely wonderful! : )     Glad to see your back, and bring on Oct!!! :)
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Hi Everyone! I was on vacation in Florida...came back tan and regrouped! Hope everyone is doing great!
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961574 tn?1520648103
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mhv
Yay!  Oct will be here before you know it!!!!   sweet!
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Hope everyone is doing great! Decided to try IVF again in October...here's hopin!!!!
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961574 tn?1520648103
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mhv
I can only speak from my experience.  During my last FET cycle, I was having trouble with my lining.  I went to an acupunturist that specializes in fertility, and when I went back to the RE in 2 days, my lining had grown.  Coincidence? maybe... but, I am doing an FET next week, (God Willing), and I have been doing acupunture once a week since the beginning of Aug.  My clinic suggests it... they say if for nothing else, it relaxing us, which we all know we need : )
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Has anyone tried acupuncture? Is it a bunch of smoke or does it actually work/help?
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1670004 tn?1333864841
I am glad you feel a little better, But I say DONT GIVE UP, especially if you have alot frozen. That a plus you dont have to start the process from the beginning

After my IVF failed the 1st time I tried everything, didnt care how stupid it sound. I did accupunture after the transfer., i also eat fresh pineapple for a week. I took a week of from work,so i didnt have any stress. lol

Most important i prayed to god
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961574 tn?1520648103
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Unfotunately, they probably don't know.  It's such a gamble.  Although there are clinics with higher success rate, they still can predict who will be successful and who won't.  Conditions can be perfect for 1 person and they end up failing  and then another person has many things wrong with their cycle, and end up with a bfp.  It is unpredictable and maddening for sure!!!!!
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AF arrived today...adding salt to the wound! Spoke to my doctor & they have no info as to why our first attempt failed. I guess just need to accept it, grieve, move on and try again. so glad I have you all to support me. Reading all the stories and successes has been such a huge comfort. Hugs to you all!
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Thank you everyone for your responses. I am feeling a little better today. I am still in shock I think and can't stop looking at the picture of the 3 embryos they transferred. Adding injury, the 1 embryo we didn't transfer did not survive so we have nothing now. I did everything right. I stopped running/working out other than just very low impact, I cut out caffeine, alcohol, I slept well, and the hardest part was work. I own a large, very busy restaurant which has been my LIFE for 8 yrs since I haven't had the joy of a family. I threw myself into work. I cut back to 40 hrs- which sounds ridiculous b/c most ppl work 40hrs. but I work 70-90. I was convinced this would work. The dr. said everything looked perfect. I don't know what to think anymore. I want to try again but at what point do you accept things and just say forget it- not meant to be. We had to do IVF b/c my husband has a blockage and his sperm can't get out but he produces normally and its plentiful. We do have a ton of frozen, great sperm and my eggs looked great. I had every test done- dr said I have a "perfect home" for a baby as far as my uterus, etc. I just don't get it. How the heck did it not work. I wish I could get an answer!  
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Hello Friends..
I did my HPT today i.e. 10dp5dt it was a BFN...am devastated and depressed, cant even convince myself to get a beta tomorrow...
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1670004 tn?1333864841
I am sorry also, No words can express how you feel right now. But i Felt the same way when my first cycle failed. I felt like i failed as a wife, I cried for hrs. The next day i said to myself,it didnt work now what are you going to do. So decided to try again.

  But dont give up, and pray it will happen. You know what i did the 2nd time around I stopped working out,because the first time i was doing spinning classes, running. So i said i would slow down. Not sure if thats what made it work the 2nd time around.

Just pray, Becasue sometimes i think god is testing  us, to see how strong we really are.

Sending you  a big hug, and we are here for you, if you ever need to talk
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961574 tn?1520648103
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mhv
I am sorry to hear about your bfn.  believe me, I know how devistating it is.  but, nshapland is correct.  I have done alot of research on this, and it seems as if everything says it can take an average of 6 tries to be successful.  do people get preggers the first try? absolutely!  but, many of us don't.  Do not think this is by any means your fault.  No one can predict who will be successful, and who won't.  Please do not give up trying!  I have been active on this board for 2 years, and 90-95% of the ladies have went on to have babies.  the other 5-10% of us are still trying.  I am sending you a big bear hug, and I really hope to see you back, and trying again soon!!!
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Hi--I just wanted to say I'm sorry for your bfn.  Did you have any to freeze?  If it makes you feel any better, a lot of people don't get pregnant on their first or even second ivf, but eventually end up pregnant.  
I'm not sure how old you are, but one thing I've had suggested to me is to do comprehensive chromosome  testing--it tests all the chromosomes of the embryos so only the "normals" are transferred. When a five day blast is found to be normal it results in live birth 60% of the time and when two normals are transferred it goes up to 75%.  This is not PGD (pre-implantation genetic diagnosis), but the one that tests ALL the chromosomes.
If you want to do a three day transfer, they can do ccs on the polar body of the egg right after fertilization and tell if the egg is normal.  I think for each normal egg (vs embryo--the polar body only tells about the egg, not the resulting embryo), the success rate is 15-20%.  
It's really the only way to know if it's an egg problem or something else...
Good luck!
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Negative. I am in shock. I thought for sure, foolishly, that it would work. I can't believe how much time, energy, prayers & money was spent on this and in one phone call it's over. I am so angry and hurt. It's been 10 yrs. I don't know what to do anymore? I don't want to give up but at this point we have tried everything and nothing ever works. Oddly, we are two perfectly healthy people. Excellent weight, we workout, we eat great (we own a big restaurant so have access to everything), we are respected in our community, have incredible extended families and friends. To an outsider...we are "the perfect couple who has everything". In reality, we are so sad. Yes, we have a great life and are blessed in many ways but we built our life this way because our dream was for it to be for our family. Now there's no family and all of that other stuff seems meaningless. I don't know where to go from here...
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1670004 tn?1333864841
I am thinking of you, and wondering also how everything went. Praying you have good news to share, and like mhv said we are here for you either way!!!!.

W e  been thru this, or going thru it. We tried for a long time over 7 years  1 etopic pregnancy and a fibroid removed. Failed 1st IVF, but i didnt give up. You are in my thoughts and prays... sending you and everyone that trying a big hug and .......and alot of baby dust.... Ladies we are strong
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AM eager to know what your Beta says...am praying for you..lots of baby dust
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961574 tn?1520648103
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mhv
Sending you a frenzy of baby dust today.  Please let us know how your beta goes, and please know we are here for you either way!!!  I totally get the ttc journey, my dh and I have been ttc for 7 1/2 yrs... maybe a little longer.  You cannot give up.  You just can't.  Sending you a big hug!!!!
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Blood test tmrw. I have cramps today and feel like AF is inevitable. I took 3 pee tests all negative. Today is 10dpt. Not lookin good. Went to church, prayed for a miracle-not just for myself but all of you TTC out there. Seems like that's all I've done for 7 years with no miracle or even a glimmer of hope. I don't know if I can do this anymore. It's torture. How am I supposed to accept that I will never have a family? My whole life has been based on HAVING A FAMILY.
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1752720 tn?1322231098
Sorry to hear about the cramping, I know it's enough to make you crazy--as if just the waiting isn't hard enough! But it doesn't necessarily mean you're not pregnant. Really. Because I was having cramps too, I did oodles of searches and talked to several friends ... and it seems that cramping in very early pregnancy -- right around and after implantation -- isn't that rare.

So hang in there and let us know how your beta goes on Monday! xx
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