IS this normal or is it a mid-life thing??

[5preg2B]

Heres my story.  Let me know you honest opinion..  I am 35 almost 36 and My husband had a vasectomy reversal in march so we could have our fourth child.. I have three DD 14(almost 15) and 11, and ds 8(almost 9).  I have wanted another child for many years but it has increased 20 fold this past year.  We started trying in  may and got pregnant right away.  at 12 weeks we lost the baby and I had a DNC.  we waited again two months and tried for two weeks and found out we were again pregnant.  we lost this one last week due to an ectopic.  I also lost my right tube.  I am still adament about having another child.  My heart aches for the children I've lost but feel that I am meant to have another.  All of my friends tell me I'm crazy and don't really support the decision.  we have no family.  My husband although likes his freedom and would really deep down i think not want another will do whatever I want to do.  I feel lonely in my decison because no one supports it.  I don't undertsnad the non support from  my friends.  We are not partiers so it would not effect ou r life in that way.  we dote on out children and their activities.  I need an honest opinion.  am I just feeling the effects of getting old??

[lovefamily]

Thank you, I hope and pray we have more children too.  I am with you...Being a Mommy is number 1 to me.  I have always felt like my number one God given call in life was to my family.

[5preg2B]

Thanks for the support.  I'm sorry to hear about your son.  I can't imagine what you have gone through.  My thoughts and prayers are with you.  I do hope we are both blessed with other children.  I LOVE kids.  They are my life.  Thanks for the support. Dana

[lovefamily]

There is nothing wrong with being 36 with 4 kids and wanting more.  Many women are having babies in their late 30's and early to mid 40's.  I am now 41.  I had a M/C in Sept. at 40 and lost my 12 year old in a tragic accident this year.  I desperately want more children too.  Some people think I am nuts.  But see there are a lot of people who do not want to be incovienced at all.  The thought of children seem to be an incovience to them.  You obviously don't feel like that,  Besides, when it comes down to it, it is you who will be raising this baby not them.  If it is your hearts desire and you and your hubbie are in agreement then I say GO FOR IT!  I hope we all conceive soon and have healthy deliveries and babies!  Blessings!!

[memmawizz]

Hi, I'm so sorry about what you've been through. I think you deserve to have as many children as you want. People won't always tell you what you want to hear but if it's what you both want as a couple then just go for it.
In terms of miscarrying, I understand that 2 isn't that uncommeon but there are support websites specifically to help you through that.
I'm ttc for the first time an dit's been overa  year and if you feel anything at all like I feel then I hope it works for you soon.
Also, 36 is not old to have a baby. A lot of women wait to that age now due to careers etc.
Best of luck.