Of course some sperm are contained in the seminal fluid that runs out, but if his ejaculate gets in your vagina, millions are headed in the right direction. If standing up right after intercourse prevented conception, there wouldn't be a need for birth control pills and devices!
Elevating your hips for a little while might help a little, and it doesn't hurt to try it.
Yeah, you see that's the problem, DH will go off to sleep afterwards as soon as he can and here I am with my legs up on the air for like 15 minutes longer by myself !!! This way he has to support me in more than one sense of the word lol, it's only 15 minutes so in the big scheme of things, it shouldn't be too much of an issue, thankfully mine didn't complain :-)
omg!! I love it!!! I tell ya our guys are the best aren"t they. I mean come on how many men would go thru all the **** we who are TTC put them thru! that is a great idea, I just mentioned it to DH and he shot me a look (kidding of course) and said your so damned spoiled its not even funny. --> DH tends to get very sleepy very quickly after BD, not me I am wide awake.. lol good luck to ya all.
Tina, I had to laugh at your directions comment, if that were the case with TTC then it is most likely I will have another girl since my DH hates to ask for directions and if his male sperm are the same well ... another girl here we come :-)
I have actually tried to BD with my behind already being elevated and well DH found that to be more uncomfortable so we left that. He says in for a minute or two and then puts pillows under my behind but by that stage there definitely have been liquid that has run out no matter what liquid it is, hopefully not too much sperm.
Something I did the past two times since men have it so easy, is other than the pillows under my behind, I make DH sit with his back to me and I put my legs up on his shoulder, why should we be the only ones to suffer LOL. He was fine with it, just watched Tv till I was done :-)
Thanks you guys :-)
I was told that the healthy sperm are like salmon, they always swim upstream. My doctor said to have DH stay in for a bit, after finishing wiht my hips already up, meaning when BD is coming to an end, we slid a pillow under my hips at that point before he finishes, then he stays in there for a minute or two. If I do it that way and stay there for a bit then not much runs out of me. However, if he pulls out immediatly when my hips arent up yet, a lot comes out.
Either way, I have been told that the fluid that does come out is seminal fluid (the alkaline fluid that helps the spermies live), dead sperm, and those that are not heading in the right direction at the right speed. While some good ones may come out, it is quite minimal. Try my above suggestion and see how that works for ya : )
okay, I have this theory. I know in most circles tnis would be tmi, but you all brought it up first :)
My theory is that afterward they should NOT leave themself inside you. After it is over they should pull out. My theory is that if they stay in you until they get soft, then the sperm will wick around their manhood, and when they pull out, it will act like a plunger and take all the goods with it.
but what do I know? I haven't gotten pg except for with use of iui :)
I'm sure some sperm must run out with it, especially the one's that don't know which way to go. Of course, they're men so they don't ask directions either, lol. I always prop butt up for at least 15-20 mins after. Some women do it even longer, but I can't take it that long. I just put a pillow under butt and wait it out :)
anyway ,i read your post ,I tried too o many after b'dng i also elevate my legs up ,but still from 5 yrs of married ,i didint get baby yet LOL .anyway trying so hard ,,,Baby dust to you ..
I ddint notice if theres a fluid or sperm that came out after intercourse ,i thought most of them are sperm which swim into vagina ,but theres something mix in it ...
I cant share much about this ,only important is getting conceive ASAP ....
wawawa .wish me luck