I just wanted to say that I am feeling much better, I think I went thru all the steps of grieving. From crying to anger to denial and such..I still have my moments from time to time..But it helps to go on here and reread your postive thoughts and well wishes..I am just trying to focus on the positive, that I can get preggers! And trying to remember that even though RE says 50% chance it happens again, theres another 50% chance it doesnt! So thanks again everyone! I will keep you updated..and I wanted to wish everyone a BFP soon!!
Sticky Sticky Baby Dust To All!!!
stefanie1976: Thx, stefanie1976. God is always there! Angels take notes. THey note our good/bad deeds. They watch over us, guide us, and keep us safe. Dissappointment is, unfortunately, part of life. We don't always get what we want or when we want it. God does provide and the devil taketh away. If all were good, it'd be a perfect world, right?! I'm not here to preach, but only to speak from my experience(s) and God has always been there for me and mine no matter what. He does everything at God-given times, precisely!
butterflybabies: Angels do have a way of making an impact on ones lives by inspiring and motivating one. They never leave one alone in ones time of need especially. Take care, heart, think positive, have faith, & be stronger than ever b4.
Stay strong lily - we are all in it with you TOGETHER.
I just read these responses and while they made me cry they also gave me strength. Your words of faith, strenght and just being positive have helped me tremendously. While I have my family and friends to help me thru this , you my IF friends have helped me the most, I truely thank you for this!
To Muse: I never thought of the anestesiologist as the messanger..I think of his words daily and hold on to them for hope. Thank you for pointing that out to me.
That was beautiful MUSE - I too have questioned where God was in all of this. I have been disappointed too many times. But I have to believe that only He knows when it is time for us to have the precious gift of life.
I agree, wholeheartedly, w/mamom15, stefanie1976, MiracleOfLife: Your experience clouded my eyes w/tears as I read your post. You said your don't think God hears you? . . . He does! He sent you an angel in the form of an anesthesiologist to give you an answer/message. (Angels are messengers of God) Have faith and think positive, always, and you'll find that everything will turn out right in due time, dear. After all, you did get pregnant and you did create a fine little angel that had to go back home and couldn't stay here on earth w/us. You will succeed on your next journey and your destiny will come out righteous. You'll see!
Everyone is in our thoughts and prayers more now than ever! God, please, help those of us to heal when we need to and thank you very much Lord when you do bear your fruits of love on us. Help us, dear God, to become strong, healthy, and full of love like you are, and help us become the mothers we are all chosen to be A.S.A.P., Amen.
Hey girl, I think it doesn't matter how many weeks the baby is, it is still a terrible loss. I had a chemical pg after 2 years of ttc and there are no words to tell you how much it hurts even though the baby was not technically there. But you have strength to get through this, you still have your both tubes and chances are in your favor! Best of luck to you! Please post here if you need to vent... Hugs!!
I am in tears reading your story. Can I ask if this was a natural pregnancy or through ivf?
Hi, I had tears in my eyes reading your story. I completely understand what you are going thru , I had a miscarriage a couple of years ago and my baby was 6 weeks. I still shudder to think that the blood clost I had were his arms and legs being flushed down. I just now had a failed IVF, again the clots brought back bad memories. ANyway you take care, you are strong and young and things will work out for you. Hugs - A
I just had my post op appointment and they said I have to wait 2cycles before trying again..they said I would be at an even higher risk for another ectopic if I get preggers before im healed..Like 50% isnt high enough. But im concentrating on the 50% chance that it doesnt happen..i cant wait to to try again..They also gave me a copy of my ultrasound pictures.. Which I am glad cause I can see my peanut anytime I want and remember that even though it didnt go well , it reminds me that I can get pregnant..and gives me hope..So I will check in and keep you all updated! Take Care everyone!
I just wanted to thank you all for you kind words and positive thoughts. I means the world to me. I am so glad I have found a place where I have friends who understand all the frustrations and worry that comes with ttc..You are a wonderful group of ladies and again I am so lucky to have you all as friends..I will keep you all posted ..and I to am hoping for another BFP and a take home baby!
Lots of love and sticky dust ,
You're a strong women...and I already admire you for that....Loosing a baby...whether @ 6 weeks or 2 weeks is hard....I hope you can surpass this horrible experience and have another baby that would bring all the joy and love I'm sure you'll be surrounded by with just having him or her by your side.
Good luck...and God Bless!
After trying for a long time too, I had a m/c at 6wks and 5 days. I know how horrible it is, even when you are "barely" pegnant. I am so sorry for your loss. I hope and pray you feel better soon. It took me at least 6 months to not think of him/her everyday. Allow yourself to do this. Don't just shove it away because it will come back and get you at some point in the future if you don't allow yourself to grieve now. Mine was about 18 months ago and I still think about it sometimes but am no where near as sad as I was. You will mentally and physically heal - just realize it takes time. Big hugs to you. Keep hubby close and lean on him as needed. You both have to go through this together. My prayers are with you.
Hi I am new here but wanted to post and say how sorry I am to hear what you are going through. I can completely understand what you are going through and the heartache you feel. Having suffered two horrific ectopic pregnancies (and two early miscarriage's in between) myself, I have been there and I know how awful it is. I think it's good that they have saved your tube, I really hope that you go on to get a bfp and your take home baby. Sadly my tubes were so badly damaged they both had to be removed, which was horrendous. We have just had our first go at IVF which I am pretty sure has failed. I am 9 days past embryo transfer and bleeding, so think it is all over and I am devastated.
Just wanted to wish you all the best for the future and say that I understand what you are going through. ((((((((HUGS)))))))) Stay strong.
I am sorry to hear that...My heart went out for you and your DH.. Everything happen for a purpose and the best thing is you did have a proper burial for you baby and now your baby rest in peace in Heaven....I know there are no words to make you feel any better. All I can do is keep you in your prayer and hope you will recover from the surgery soon and start TTC again...
Please take it easy ... relax your mind and your body from all this...
God Bless you..
Thank You! I am pretty sore from the surgery...but my heartache is worse!
I am so vey sorry you are going through this after what you already went through!!! I hope you are recovering from the sugery and will be blessed with another bfp and a healthy baby soon.
My heart goes out to you and dh.